I think i've been a pretty ok mum so far done all the little kid and pre-teen stuff and loved most of it. enjoyed holidays, doing craft, bike rides blah blah.
my dcs are 12 and 14.
over the last year they have been cutting the apron strings. I know it's right and normal.
but I don't know how to parent them now. Dh feels the same. are we just useless?
I just feel like a constant nag and everything turns into an enormous battle. E.g. last night ds told me to "butt out" of helping him with his English (he struggles and has extra help at school). I was really annoyed so I said ,very childishly "ok I wont bother going to anymore parents evenings...etc" I'm not always poking my nose in as long as he's doing ok, but English is his weak subject. should I just let him get on with it? dd argues about everything and is constantly pushing the boundaries.
I used to work with difficult teenagers and loved it but when they're not yours it's so different.
I remember being left to my own devices around this age, after a lovely childhood and I pretty much hated it- I didn't want to be a teenager until I was about 16.
I really don't want to move on to the benign neglect stuff yet (dd12!) as in my childhood I wasn't helped with school stuff at this stage and only got 3 o levels and had no career help.
my dcs just want to hang out with mates then onto screens at home, but then the homework isn't done/ bag not packed. They used to be really helpful around the house-now massive whinging over laying the table or putting their socks away. I sound soft in this post and I'm not just sick of the constant battles.
What to do?
Any wise words of advice? Thanks in advance.
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foxdongle · 01/04/2014 11:41
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