Top sites for managing tricky friendships

[desmaker]

New to Mumsnet-hoping for some pointers! DD (14) has an awful lot of self harmers and manipulating girls in her class. She is well balanced, kind and thoughtful but is finding it hard coping with their complex issues. 2 are close friends. I'm finding it hard to give her coping strategies in how to deal with them and their mind playing games. The staff at school know about the self harming etc. I'm not concerned that she will follow in the behaviour,just don't know how to support her apart from don't take on their worries, they're not her responsibility, try to limit your time with them approach. Any good teenage websites I can guide her to? Mostly seem to be for the bullied/selfharmer side etc rather than how to cope with being the friend of side.

[BuzzLightbulb]

Found this

www.thesite.org/mental-health/self-harm/coping-with-self-harm-5692.html

Hope it's of some use.

You mentioned manipulative girls in her class, do you mean her friends are manipulating her by self harming?

That would be emotional bullying, and a dependency not a friendship.

[BuzzLightbulb]

Oh, and wandering round that site I found this too, might be more appropriate

www.thesite.org/mental-health/self-harm/their-self-harm-is-too-much-for-me-5693.html

[desmaker]

Many thanks, thesite pages are really useful. Manipulation is through testing loyalty/alligance to friends, guilt tripping etc not involving threats of self harming etc luckily.