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Quick! Sleepover advice please

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RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 17:07:19

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LaurieFairyCake Sun 16-Feb-14 17:08:38

Ha ha

You now say no.

Too old for it to be entirely innocent, too young to make good decisions.

RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 17:18:44

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LaurieFairyCake Sun 16-Feb-14 17:21:26

You don't think that maybe a mixed sleepover should have been in the first text message and there's a bit of manipulation going on?

Do you normally let mixed sleepovers happen?

HerGraciousMajTheBeardedPotato Sun 16-Feb-14 17:23:10

Surely all in together makes it less likely that any will have sex?

HerGraciousMajTheBeardedPotato Sun 16-Feb-14 17:23:57

Trouble is, of course, that you would have to stay awake to make sure no couples sneaked off to another room.

ihatethecold Sun 16-Feb-14 17:24:39

There is no way that would be happening in my house, not a chance!

Bluestocking Sun 16-Feb-14 17:25:16

Do you remember being fifteen? Unless you are happy for an all-night group grope to take place under your roof, you say sternly that the sleepover is girls only, or it doesn't happen.

AtiaoftheJulii Sun 16-Feb-14 17:27:56

My teenage girls have male friends to stay - they just sleep in a different room. Ime it's one of those things that sounds worse than it is, and then it happens and you realise it's ok and nothing awful has happened.

RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 17:30:59

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flow4 Sun 16-Feb-14 17:32:14

You're not going to get a helpful consensus here, Rudy - this is one of MN's most hotly-debated teen topics!

FWIW, I allowed a mixed 14th b'day sleepover last month; I participated in lots of mixed sleepovers myself from 16 onwards...

I think all you can do is follow your own instincts. Good luck! smile

RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 17:33:35

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Bluestocking Sun 16-Feb-14 17:34:11

Maybe fifteen year olds have changed radically since 1979 ...

MrsSchadenfreude Sun 16-Feb-14 17:35:57

How many are there? I would say yes, but separate rooms for the sleeping bit (which probably won't happen).

RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 17:37:27

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coffeeandcream Sun 16-Feb-14 17:40:56

Not a chance.

Don't feel bad for changing your mind or saying girls only. It was a bit sneaky of your DD not to have mentioned it was a mixed group.

Would you want to be the responsible adult in charge for this and potentially have the wrath of the other parents come down on you? Remember, some if the other invitees parents may not want their DCs in this situation. It's not just your decision.

lljkk Sun 16-Feb-14 17:42:29

Separate rooms, riot act read, and sleep on the hall floor between their rooms. wink

(probably half are gay & won't need to travel for naughties, but at least you tried)

AtiaoftheJulii Sun 16-Feb-14 17:43:14

I doubt fifteen year olds have changed, but neither has the fact that there is a huge range of fifteen year olds. I wasn't participating in any "all night group gropes" in 1984, and I wouldn't expect my daughters to be now!

Stricnine Sun 16-Feb-14 17:45:22

we have mixed sleepovers and DD goes to others away from here... there's not much sleeping going on, usually a movie or two (or three).. they don't get undressed and generally 'sleep' in a bundle of mixed kids, all in room... we sacrifice the lounge, large area of blow up mattress(es) several pillows/douvets etc and leave them to it(has glass door!!)

so far so good smile

Bluestocking Sun 16-Feb-14 17:49:18

I wasn't participating in all-night group gropes either - but only because none of our parents hosted mixed sleepovers. Our group gropes took place in houses where the parents were away, and were time-limited by curfews.

RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 20:01:41

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TeenageAdvice15 Sun 16-Feb-14 20:08:32

I'm a 15 year

TeenageAdvice15 Sun 16-Feb-14 20:10:40

I'm a 15 year old girl and my parents let me have mixed sleepovers. Not all teenagers are sex obsessed you know hmm we don't 'grope' each other or play spin the bottle or anything, just watch movies and talk. Just let her have it it's half term smile

RudyMentary Sun 16-Feb-14 20:56:42

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TeenageAdvice15 Sun 16-Feb-14 21:08:58

no problem x

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