Oh, bugger, what do I do now?

[mypussyiscalledCaramel]

Ds1 (16) has a girlfriend (15). They are both vulnerable because of difficult home lives. Although D's and I are no longer in harms way.

This evening, the kids were messing about, I think D's may have wound his gf up too much. She decided to bite his lip, in retaliation. It bled.

I did say to her that it wasn't a good thing to do and that stuff like that could damage their relationship.

She went upstairs and then DS followed her up. A short while later, he came back downstairs and told me she said deserved it.

IM NOT HAVING THIS. I said to myself.

I went upstairs an calmly told the gf that nobody DESERVES that, no matter what they had done. I explained that she needs to walk away or talk it through and also told DS that he needs to learn when to stop, take note of the signals.

What do I do now? She is one very mixed up girl. She needs help, but won't see a counsellor. It would seem my DS needs a bit of education too, but what?

[mypussyiscalledCaramel]

Anyone got any advise

[mypussyiscalledCaramel]

Bump

[MrsBright]

Physical violence isnt acceptable. Even less acceptable in any form of 'relationship'. No-one deserves to be bitten!

Does your son realise this, or does he think this is normal in a relationship? If he does realise its not okay, then encourage him to re-think the relationship - is she really what he wants in a gf if thats her version of communication? If he thinks this is 'normal' then its time to have a VERY long chat about abusive relationships.

Sorry, not interested in gf. She's someone else's problem and it sounds like she needs the realisation that violence looses boyfriends very swiftly.