I am desperate for some help. My dd aged nearly 17 was going out with her boyfriend for nearly 18 months until 6 months ago. He suddenly finished with her (she had become paranoid about other girls and they had started to argue a lot). The split was very hard for him too, tears shed on both sides and it was clearly not what he wanted but he didn't know what else to do. My problem is that six months on and she is really still not over it, or even getting over it, at all. Outwardly she is doing ok, she's at college now (he's still at school) and she has lots of friends and is out with them a fair bit. She's had interest from other boys but is not interested in anyone at all. But during an argument today which got quite heated (normal teenage stuff, not being respectful, letting me know what she's doing etc etc) I made the mistake of mentioning the previous boyfriend and she absolutely lost it, floods of tears, she said I have no idea how hurt she is, how much she hates herself, how unhappy she is. When I said she gives the impression she is having fun with her friends, she said it's just a front, she is trying to be happy, but she's not. She doesn't want to talk about it at all, she pushes me away and tells me not to mention him, she gets very upset at the mention of him, and I can't further that conversation at all, she cuts it straight off. But clearly she's in turmoil still. I know that they have sporadic contact on fb, but no idea what the discussions are about. He has been 'seeing' another girl but very casually and it's not a relationship apparently, just a snog at parties etc. I wonder if this still gives her hope? Is she living in hope still? Is this why she won't entertain even the mention of anybody else in her life? It wasn't a short relationship, it was a long one for their age I know, and it had become serious (they had started sleeping together). I just don't know how to help her when she won't discuss it. Not sure whether to talk to any of her close friends, they appear to think she is ok, whether they ever talk about him I don't know, but I doubt it. Help!
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