I didn't even know what to put as the subject line for this, where do I even start? My DD is 16 and pretty much lives in her room chatting to her
boyfriend, she's becoming increasingly selfish and self centred, and yes I know this is a teen thing, but whenever I try and discipline her she just smirks at me and runs to her Dad, who rarely ever disciplines her. I work full time but my partner doesn't and he tells me i'm never in the house so I can't come in and try and discipline them (I also have a 14 yr old DD)
This evening I sat them both down to explain to them that they both needed to pull their weight a bit more blah blah blah and tried to keep the talk democratic but it went wrong and I got upset so let both girls go upstairs. I ended up crying and coming upstairs to get 5 mins but partner followed me up (as usual) telling me where i'd gone wrong so of course we argued. I just don't know what to do. I'm really lenient with the girls and value their growing independence and opinions and yes I do work full time but does that really mean I have to relinquish all right to put them on the right path? For the record I do try and chat with them too. I'm trying so hard to get the balance right but I feel so used and under appreciated. I feel like getting in the car and just driving somewhere, I feel like it's just my bank card that'd be missed. And yes, I do realise how whingey I sound! I just need to talk to someone who isn't going to tell me where i'm going wrong then ask me for money straight after
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midlakefan · 21/01/2014 21:17
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