Just finished a very upsetting visit from a local social worker about my 15 teen daughter. It all kicked off on Saturday night after I tried to thwart her plans for an impromptu sleepover round a friends house. I said no, after it became clear that the parents weren't home and they tried to convince me that they could prove they would be remaining at home by texting me photos every 30 mins, with a clock in the background (seriously, my A/A* child can be so stupid at times)! Thought I'd won the battle when she came home and agreed with all the reasons I'd said I wasn't happy, only to realise she was getting changed and packing some stuff. Yep, she was going anyway, except somewhere else in the village, to an unknown address. Warned her that I would cancel her phone contract, but she left anyway, texting us a couple of bogus addresses (which we checked) and warning us not to phone the police, which of course we ignored. She came back at 03:00, which was a relief, but I didn't confront her til the next morning, before we went out to a local National Trust place with our other kids. She wouldn't speak to me. Whilst we were out, a Police officer called round and gave her a stern talking to, which obviously had no effect.
To cut a long story short, she's been away from home since Sunday (thankfully going to school), and is sofa surfing at friends houses. However, tonight she is out of options. To extend the amount of time she has before coming home to face the music, she told the school yesterday that she can't come home because she feels unsafe. Honestly, you should see the bruises she inflicted on my DH as he held her to one side so I could leave her bedroom unharmed on Sat. Social services came round to say she's 'homeless', except as far as I'm aware her bedroom's still in the same place. SS are trying to make us come up with solutions to housing her (friends etc), other than the ruddy obvious and it's making me feel so sad and helpless.
Going to school now to try and talk some sense into her. Wish me luck!
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What to do about my 'homeless' teen
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Bunnielish · 25/09/2013 13:22
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