Dd walking all over ds

[theredhen]

Dd aged 16 is a lovely girl but I do feel she's a bit of a bully to my ds aged 15.

She just acts as if she's "entitled" to his things, his time, his friends and his personal space.

He respects her space and never helps himself to her stuff but she just treats his room as if its an extension of hers.

She bosses him about, hides food in the fridge from him (I admit he is eating like a horse at the minute)

She's incredibly bright and I have high hopes for her, he's still talented but a bit lazy and not as academic.

He never argues with her, just lets her push him around. I have spoken to both of them. She agrees to respect him more but after a few days we are back to square one. He says he can't be bothered to argue with her and he that if she wants to feel more important than him, he doesn't care.

Not really sure what else to do.

[lljkk]

Have to let them hash it out.

[theredhen]

I just really dislike her bossiness and her entitled attitude, it's not something I want her to carry into other relationships but equally I don't want him to grow up to be a mousy doormat who can't stick up for himself. Sigh.

[AnyFucker]

I would leave them to it, tbh, especially as they are so close in age. I sometimes tell my 17yo dd off, but there is 5 years between my two

It sounds like your son doesn't need you to intervene for him, and if your dd tries to act like that out in the RL she will soon get her wings clipped

I think their personalities are failry well formed by now

[MrsJackAubrey]

My dd bossed her twin brother until this summer now they are almost 16 it's like the worm has turned. He won't stand for it any more. He has become more difficult generally so I think it just took him longer to 'grow into his assertiveness' so to speak. But it all made me reflect on what they see in the dynamic between mr and DH which I'm sorry to say is me bossing him and him being über tolerant [sad