Can a parent stop child from seeing boyfriend?

[MatchstickMonster]

Okay. I'm not a parent. I'm a sixteen year old girl who has a boyfriend. I have autism and depression and she does not understand my issues. He does.

She seems to have prejudged him based on stereotypes

[lljkk]

hmmm...!
I think with those issues your Ma may be extra protective of you.
No matter what he must treat you well. Don't let him get away with anything less.

[ThreeBeeOneGee]

Perhaps you could invite him to spend time with you & your mum together, then she'll start to see him as he really is?

[FrauMoose]

Your Mum might be worried about various things. I feel very protective about my daughter. Ideally I'd like her to carry on doing well at school, and to have a group of friends - not just one special one! When she does form a close relationship with somebody special, I know they might be a big influence on her. So my normal concerns - for example about young people drinking more alcohol than is good for them - might increase. If the relationship is very much a physical one, I'd like to feel sure a) that was because both people wanted equally and b) that precautions were being taken to avoid some of the more difficult consequences - a baby being conceived, one person passing on an infection to another.

Perhaps I'd also want to feel that even if my daughter was getting close to somebody else, as a part of growing up, that it still might be possible for us to spend time together and to get on as well as we could.

I hope that helps. Good luck!

[Dumpylump]

What stereotypes? My dsd is 15 and she has a boyfriend...I haven't judged him at all, but have been gradually getting to know him when he spends time with us.
Her mum and dad have occasionally decided that they won't give her a lift through to visit him because she hasn't done her homework, or the chores that she was asked to do, or whatever...that has nothing to do with him, and everything to do with her and her behaviour. That doesn't stop her shouting about how unfair they are, or that it's because we all hate her boyfriend.

Sorry Matchstick that probably doesn't help you much, but maybe it's not about your boyfriend, and it wouldn't matter who he was, maybe it's about how your mum is worried about you, and how you're starting to move out from under her wing.

[AAAndy]

I'm very protective of my daughter, I try to meet the boys she wants to be with at least once! Maybe over dinner/lunch or a coffee.

Try to arrange a get together where your MA might be able to see the lad in a different light maybe?

[MrsWilberforce]

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