Me im 17

[bethany0812]

Well were to get started to be honest, well my life has been hard but then there?s other people out there who have had it worse than me .

Well all that I know is this?
When I was born I was born by I.V.F and a surrogate mother, this is where a lady has you as your parents can?t have children so your dad gives his sperm and its put inside the lady (this is what the lady does as a job to give other family?s the opportunity to have kids and a family of their own). Then you are given back to your dad and wife (biological mum) .

When my brother and I were growing up when I was about 2 my biological mum (Verna) walked out on my dad and left him to look after me (Bethany) and my brother (Phil who?s 1year and a bit older than me) on his own, with no family support, as my grandad lived a couple of hours away, but my grandad (Gren) and grandma (Carol) decided to move down to be closer to my dad (Howard) to help look after us.
When I was about 6 my dad had a heart attack and died in front of me and my brother we had to run next door and call my grandad and ring ambulances it was one of the most scariest things that?s ever happened.
Then we starting living with my grandad and grandma and Verna starting trying to come back in the picture by trying to get custody over us when we didn?t want to live with her, thank god she didn?t.
Then when I was living with my grandma and grandad my grandma became ill and had stroke after stroke and was in a wheelchair so my grandad had to look after her aswell so we were going to have to go into care but friends of the family offered to adopt us so they did and we have been living with them since.

Since me and my brother have been living with them , my grandma died when I was 12 and my brother ended up leaving me and living back with my grandad when he was 15 I ended up running away from my adopted parents cause I wanted to live with my grandad and then he got cancer and I moved out cause my brother would beat me up and I was staying with a friend then I ended up sofa serving and homeless sleeping in sheds in the middle of winter etc now im living with my boyfriend at his mums and im finding it so hard I give money to her and its rather hard I really want a job so I cant get a flat but I cant find one.

[kukeslala]

Hi Bethany
Are you working with any other people about finding your own housing or work?

[FernieB]

Have you tried going back to your adoptive parents? If my teen had run away and was in your situation I would love them to come home or at least ask for help. They wouldn't have adopted you if they didn't want you in their lives and I'm sure they still feel the same.

[FernieB]

The job market is tough - have you tried college. There are all kinds of courses available and you would probably be able to get some work experience as well.

[lj123]

You have had it tough!
I would take a look on the reed job website as they offer some courses for free, I believe it's them anyway, it's all things you can add to your cv and you have plenty of time to work really hard to do well.
Unfortunately jobs are hard to come by currently, if you go to college and are interested in childcare it's a good qualification to have, there's always nursery a looking for staff, nannies needed etc.
I hope you find your feet, just stay positive xx