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Mixed gender sleepovers, ok and a big NO?????

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MaryRose Thu 04-Jul-13 13:20:01

So here's the dilemma, DD12 (nearly 13) wants to go to the movies then sleepover at best friend's for birthday next far so good...but then I find out that amongst others a couple of boys will be going to the movie and sleeping over too. Now don't get me wrong, I do trust DD 100%, she's a top student who's won academic awards this year,applies herself at school and swims and does other sports to a high level, apart from the usual teenage hassles I have no bother with her BUT it just doesn't feel quite right to allow this, what do others think? And if I say no how can I do it without all hell breaking loose???!! ;-)

chocolate140 Sun 15-Sep-13 00:23:39

my dd is 14 and I allowed her to have a sleepover with 15 of her friends in tents at the back of the garden. pretty much half of them were boys and everything was fine, I hadn't even met a few of the boys and one of the girls but they all got along fine. they did a barbecue and all had a great time. not once did I have to go and tell them off they were all very sensible. the next day everyone helped to clean up and they even tidied the whole of the ground floor (including mopping and hoovering!!) I'd let them do it again and I don't see the problem with having mixed sleepovers when they're all friends. the chances of anything untoward happening are so slim there's no point fretting over it

MaryRose Tue 17-Sep-13 21:16:35

Blimey is this thread still running?! We'be long ago moved on to the next set of crises (fall outs with friends, sexting, just being a plain old Moody teen) I suppose I should take that ad a comfort that all these phases do pass!!!

XHZELLO Tue 16-May-17 22:06:35

actually, my Lil sis is about to have one of these, I didn't think much of it. it's just three of them. her a friend and another friend wich is a boy (he always hangs w/ girls!!!) so for me, not a biggie. 'ave a good one!

Ohyesiam Tue 16-May-17 22:16:16

I think if be more cooperative at 12/13 than at 15/16. Of want to talk to the host patents about boundaries, and what the set up would be, and if I liked their attitude, I could be persuaded.
My anxious side worked that

Ohyesiam Tue 16-May-17 22:18:06

Oops, my anxious side worries that with porn on tap, even very young boys will have skewed ideas about what to expect of girls. I try not to make fear based decisions though.

M0stlyBowlingHedgehog Tue 16-May-17 22:20:58

Another zombie thread from the mists of pre-history. The 13 year old in the OP will be 17 now.

What is it with bumping all the zombie threads these days? How the fuck do people find them?

3catsandcounting Fri 19-May-17 10:59:12

Probably because they've got a current problem with a 12 year-old and are trawling through Mumsnet typing in keywords ("12 year-old" - "Sleepovers")
It makes little difference if the thread is current or not, when you're searching for advice on an age-old issue. hmm

LucyLocketLostIt Fri 19-May-17 11:26:02

Definitely say no. She's only 12. She's still a child and is vulnerable.

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