Hi, the thorny subject of untidy and dirty bedroom is raising its head again. Went into YDs room today to strip bed (cos she hadnt and it's well over due so I've given in cos I am doing a "bedding" wash anyway) Dirty bowls and plates (she's not meant to eat in her room really) LOADS of empty crisp packets (no wonder there's never any for us) and chocolate bar wrappers stuffed down bed, clothes all over floor, etc etc..you get the general idea. As for dust and dirt....and believe me I am NOT a perfect/desparate housewife!
I am in two minds about it...on the one hand it's HER room and perhaps I should leave it and let her have it how she wants, but on the other hand it's MY house and YD has her own room,not sharing it, and it's decorated in accordance with her desires so why can't she have pride in it and have it vaguely tidy and even god forbid, clean? she even bought herself some new leggings (secretly) cos she couldn't find/be bothered to look for her old ones (wanted to borrow mine but I wouldn't let her..if she put things away they'd be ther for her to wear!) Have tried with holding pocket money, doesn't work. I feel with her it's all about Power...hers over mine. What should I do?
Someone said on a similar thread recently that teens (mine is 13) don't know how to tidy up, and I think this is true. I am constantly banging on to DD about sorting her tip of room out, but I really think she does not have a clue how to go about it. I venture in when I am feeling brave, have a good clear out and then threaten her with loss of Blackberry if she doesn't keep it that way, but it always reverts. She loses her Blackberry for a while, then the whole cycle starts again.
I make excuses for her as she doesn't have much storage, plus she has loads of stuff that doesn't fit her anymore which needs sorting.
But the plates, and the half drunk cups of tea, and the soiled sanitary towels, honestly, it is enough to drive me to drink.
Wellll...crunch time is approaching. Room was tidied at weekend cos I told her she couldn't go out until it was. BUT..have just emptied the wash basket and done a wash and noticed when hanging up that NONE of her school polo shirts have made it to the wash basket and so haven't been washed. So tomorrow she won't have any clean ones. Not looking forward to the shouting though....... She may have to hand wash tonight!