How to tell my teens I'm pregnant?(19 Posts)
Hi everyone. I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to break the news to my 2 DD's age 18 & 12 that I'm pregnant? I'm a bit worried as when myself and DH briefly mentioned the possibility of a baby a couple of years ago they both looked a bit disgusted! This is my second marriage and we've been together 9 years so this new baby is a blessing we thought we'd never have! DH doesn't have any of his own children. I have a great relationship with my girls but I have to admit they are both a teensy bit spoilt! They have 4 step siblings from their fathers new marriage so they are used to other kids being in their lives, but this is a bit different. I'm hoping they'll be happy, but I want to do this the right way & I would appreciate some advice on how to handle them if they're not. Thanks
My df told me dm was pregnant when i was 16. I was most bothered about how it would affect me- it would i have to share a room etc? Teens are very self orientated so my advice would be to tell them and then reassure them/ tel them how it will effect them
Many congratulations mimi! We announced our news to our 15 and 11 year olds on Mother's Day, telling them that in a years' time there would be someone else celebrating with us..... It didn't go down well with DD1 who answered that, 'in a years' time, you two will be off with your baby...' Things came around in the following days once she understood that we'd be moving to a bigger place to accomodate the new baby. She did flip a little at the idea that DH and I were still DTD! DS gave DH a 'look' and asked what he'd been doing to his mother! Besides that he was very interested in baby's development throughout the pregnancy. Forward 2.5 years and DD2 couldn't have a more loving brother and sister - they absolutely adore her. As dancing says, reassure them about how their lives are going to be affected. No question about sharing bedrooms etc (we had DD2 in our room until we moved), nappy changing being optional etc.
how about "i'm going to provide you with some very life-sized PHSE lessons" ?
I had this news when I was 13, I was mortified, embarassed and quite grumpy for most of the pregnancy. Once he was born though, I was thrilled, happy and involved. He brought so much to the family.
Still referred to as the baby boy at the age of 26.
Don't be too worried if they are the same at first.
We took ours out for dinner and told them during the meal. 15 yo said "you are joking, aren't you?"; 20 yo said it was OK if it was a brother but she didn't want a sister. 17 yo had known something was up and thought I was ill so was relieved, and 19 yo said nothing at all. All were fine when their sister was born.
When we announced to ours 'We've got some exciting news. We're having another baby!' DD1 (13) said in rather disgruntled tones, 'Oh! I thought you were going to say we were getting a dog!'
She then returned from school the next day excitedly saying, 'OMG - all my friends think it's sooooo cool!' so that was good.
Clearly she had had to go check with the peer group whether it was cool or gross that her mother was still having sex at the advanced age of 37
They all love him now (mostly). He's 7.
My Mum bought us a trip to Disneyland, and after telling us about the holiday (me 19 and two sisters, 17&14) she dropped the pregnancy bombshell. We all cried. Sorry to say me and the middle sister left for a couple of days to calm down (VERY unexpected pregnancy).
eeewwww.....Mum has sex...eeeewww... :-)
congratulations. They'll be a bit stunned, but fine once they get used to it. Be prepared for lack of enthusiasm about noisy, smelly baby in house, but they'll cope.
I think the biggest immediate issue won't be the news of a sibling, but the stark realisation that their mother still has sex. There will be some embarrassment around that - little you can do, but be prepared for it.
I was 14 and my brother was 12 when my mom had our younger brother, when they told us she was pg DBrother said "I'd rather have a dog"!! We still take the mick out of him 32 years later . Congratulations btw
We dragged dd13 and ds16 out of bed and got them downstairs. DP spilled the beans. They were really pleased and hi 5'd each other! My dcs are weird though, they want a baby brother or sister. They recently told us to go upstairs and get on with it, and they would sit downstairs quietly and behave themselves!
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Although I live the idea of a peed on stick being branded about.
I found out I was expecting DS when DD was 15 and SS was 23. We are now expecting DC3-DD is almost 20, SS is almost 28. We didn't hide it, just told them. After getting over the 'eww, that means they still have sex' issue, they were pleased!! It took a bit of adjustment for DD (more than SS because he had already moved into his own place), but she loves DS.....and they wind each other up and argue like closer born siblings!!
They might just surprise you. I told my 15, 13 and 10 year old I was pregnant and was bowled over by their reaction, literally. My hulking great big 15 year old son nearly knocked me over in his rush to hug me!! They were all so very excited we were going to have a baby in the house. Much squealing went on for ages and the knowing (secret as we didn't want anyone else to know) looks were such fun. It was like we were all in a secret club! They were all very interested in the pregnancy and had it all gone to plan we would have had a home birth with them all here with us.
#4 is 4 months now and is very much doted on by all.
Congratulations and good luck x
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