Because i dont think i can do this anymore.
I am so so upset and fed up at the moment and dont know what to do. I have loads of support in terms of my partner, my friends and family who all know what dd is like but i hold my hands up and admit i just cant cope with her.
My partner and her dont get on, never really have tbh and its so so tough being stuck in the middle living 2 lives one with her and one with him. She is so rude and abusive and lazy and makes a point of now doing so infront of the children i look after which is taking its toll on my job (childminder). Tonight because i picked her up a whole 4 minutes early she got in the cra infront of the children and told me i was 'an utter bitch' i tried not to answer as didnt want the children to hear. By ignoring her for what i thought was the best thing to do she said 'eugh i could just hit you your such a f'ing bitch' I was mortified and am worried sick the children heard and ill lose my job as this isnt the first time.
She moved in with her step dad a while back as things had got to boiling point and life was very calm one she had gone. I was upset as felt ide failed as a mother but knowing she was happy meant more and although ide love it if she just changed back to my lovely daughter i cant see it happening. My ex you see doesnt mind mess and is obviously a lot more chilled than me. He's in the police however doesnt really have any boundaries which suprises me but they get on fine and i wonder if its me being a 'control freak' as she tells me. he lest her do the washing up 'if she likes' which means she doesnt..he takes her out even if shes played up as he 'doesnt want to be the bad guy' as hes told me or 'ruin his evening' The thing is i do EXACTLY the same as he does to prove a point but she hates me for leaving her dad and has not let me forget it for 2.5 years now and im at breaking point.
Life is so tough and getting harder. I am not sure why my partner puts up with her tbh and every day i wait for him to tell me hes had enough and am constantly on edge not knowing if ill be on my own as she steals from him and is downright rude and he never says a word. If we split up life wouldnt improve though with dd as its not him thats the problem its her age but i cant deal with it.
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gabyjane · 10/01/2013 18:37
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