DD is in year 9 in an all girls academic school, she hasn't been happy at school since the end of last year. Since September she has come home miserable at lot of the time as she doesn't have many friends. The super popular girls have taken against her and the girls that were her friends are sidelining her. She says it's because nobody wants to be seen to be her friend.
She has been saying that she hates her school for some time now and I've listened but taken the stance that everyone hates school at this age. I do believe that it will get better next year when they're taking options and not in the same form for all subjects. DD says that she now has a reputation as a loner and has admitted that she's being a doormat and hanging onto the group she was originally friends with rather than be on her own even though they exclude her.
I have in the past suggested that I speak to school but DD says that it will make things worse and all school do is say that someone is being bullied which sets off a load of whispering and rumours. All she wants to do is move schools and start again, she thinks that she'll never shake off the image she has.
I'm just not sure what to do for the best. We've talked today about her being a bit of a doormat with girls in her class and that perhaps being alone might be better than sitting next to them but being ignored. I wonder if she chose to not be with them rather than tagging along it might at least give her some self respect.
Really I'm looking for advice on how to help her, do I talk to school? and should I consider moving her?
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13 year old DD is begging to move schools
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Walnutty · 27/11/2012 17:50
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