DS has a birthday coming up in the next few weeks. He will be 16. His birthday 'wish list' consists of almost entirely 'shooting' games for PS3, which I am reluctant to buy him as he already has plenty and most of the arguments in this house are about the PS3. We have agreed to decorate his bedroom and make it more adult, and I wondered if buying him a tv/dvd player for his bedroom might be a good idea. He already has virtually exclusive use of a room downstairs which is equipped with TV/DVD plus playstation and desktop computer. I think it would be good for him to have something to 'chill out' in his room with - we have always shied away from gadgets in bedrooms, but he does 'play' on his phone when he's up there, and we have had cause to take it off him when he has been using it after lights out. DH, however, thinks that DS will just take his PS3 up there as well, and plug it in to the new tv, and we will never get him out of his room. I agree with DHs fears, but DS will be 16 and needs to learn otherwise, if he goes to Uni in a few years time, he will not have learned to self police his gadget use and sleep time. Plus at 16, isn't it just what teenagers do? The computer will not be going up there, although might have to buy him a laptop when he goes into 6th form. We can flick the wifi off at night if necessary, but that will only stop him playing online after hours, the phone, tv etc will still work. So......is it a right of passage or am I about to make a mistake that I will very quickly regret?