My son is 17 and in his second year at college doing A levels - he is only doing 2, having dropped two so will not be going to university and has said this himself. He was in danger of getting kicked out at the end of last year so is on his last warning now.
He hasn't seen a careers advisor and there was an apprenticeship talk yesterday which to my knowledge he never went to. He hasn't a clue what he wants to do, does no homework at all and spends all his time at home on the x-box, youtube and facebook.
He smokes cannabis whenever he gets the chance which is not often now as we have stopped ALL money due to this. He roams around the park with his friends at weekends - the odd time they have been to a pub but he won't be able to do this anymore because of no money.
I have told him he needs to start doing things that will look good on his CV such as a part time job or voluntary work but he takes absolutely no notice.
When will he get a grip? He is 18 at the end of July and I have visions of him still being like this then. We will not tolerate him lying in bed all day when we are work and he knows this.
He will get a lot of money for Christmas as we have a very big family (usually around £400 - £500) but this will be for clothes etc, not to spend, due to the cannabis problem mentioned above.
I know teenage boys are not good at looking beyond next week but has he plenty of time to turn everything around or do we need to start putting the pressure on. We have stopped him having cash - the only other thing I can think of his turning the internet/x-box off if he doesn't get a grip in the new year.
We all know how tough it is out there - we are slap bang in the middle of two very large towns and every shop is looking for Christmas staff but he just can't be bothered. If he can't get a part-time job this Christmas then I can't see that he will ever get one before he is 18.
Does anyone have any ideas how to improve this situation?
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Can I "force" my 17 year old son to do anything to improve his future chances of employment?
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fedup44 · 17/10/2012 19:01
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