After having a pretty awful few weeks with my 13 year old daughter I realised that I could do with a forum with other mothers of teenagers to stop me from going completely round the twist!!! And to get me through the next few years with a reasonably amount of sanity let!
So here I am hello :)
I have two children of 6 and 13 both girls and I love them both very dearly.
My 13 year old seems to think everyone is against her at the moment! She's gone from being such a bright energetic child with a passion for drama.
To being secluded, very selfish and thinking the word is against her.
She was bullied at school last term which between the school and myself we have managed to put a stop to. However not before it had destroyed her confidence and she has been diagnosed with anxiety :(
The trouble is its effected her school work as she just doesn't have the motivation she used to have.
Its a vicious circle as I want to get her on track and make her happy. But she keeps letting her teachers down which obviously makes the school cross and myself frustrated. I keep trying to say to her to try harder then we can all get off her back and she will be happier but she keeps making the same mistakes and it leads to further frustrations.
Its mainly plain laziness she either flat out doesn't do her work or will do the bare minimum with mistakes due to rushing.
Ive been trying to get her to tidy her room for two months and I always get a negative reaction when I ask. When she does do it things a shoved under the bed etc but its never done properly.
She just seems to spend a lot of her time taking and not giving anything back. We went to the circus the other evening which is a rare treat as money is tight and she was so excited until during the interval she decide she wanted a programme at £10 after we had already bought her candy floss and we said no.
So with that she refused to enjoy the rest of the evening and sulked.
I just don't understand I try and do nice things for her and she cant just be grateful.
I want to make her happy and feel that if she's happier everything else will fall into place but it seems such an impossible task.
When we take things away like her ipod etc and tell her that she cant have it back on improved behaviour etc. She doesn't seem to care. Its like being lazy is more important to her that anything.
I know a lot of it is anxiety and its effected her well being but Im trying to hard to help her help herself and she cant seem to see it. Its really breaking my heart.
How many years does this last, please tell me she will come out the other side!!
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OhSoVintage · 14/10/2012 12:33
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