My 16 yr old son keeps stealing !!!

[benny123]

From us whether it a couple of pounds left on a drawer or in a purse . Money has even gone missing from his sisters purse about £25 and also the Purse disappeared which we knew was there. What do we do ? Am so fed up and know he smokes which I sure is mostly to blame. So annoyed as would probably give him some cash if he asked and its the fact that he steal which makes it so bad. We feel that we can not keep money around without if going missing so sad and dam right annoying ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[justbreathe]

plant a photo copy of a fiver in your purse and write a note on it saying how you feel !

[Witco]

It is such a horrible situation to be in but I agree, there is nothing like irrefutable proof to give you an argument. Tough conversation but at least you can have a meaningful conversation from there

[Parttimeslave]

Have posted about this lots over the past couple of years. It seems to be quite a common topic - unfortunately. My ds2 (now 17) seems to have stopped thieving from us (similar to you - odd fiver from purse missing etc), but only because I keep my money well hidden and he now has a Saturday job. It may also be that he has grown up a bit over the last year and stopped been a selfish git!
I recommend trying to catch him out so you can confront him and discuss how unacceptable it is. He will deny doing it till the cows come home. Then just be vigilent with your cash until he grows up a bit and becomes less about how "the world owes him everything etc etc". I suspected that mine also used the money to buy ciggies too - but he always denied smoking - they are such irritating, lying little buggers sometimes!

[flow4]

It's a horrible, horrible feeling. It was especially bad when he denied it; and though I was about 99.9% certain, that tiny fraction of uncertainty (maybe I'd spent it? or lost it?) ) was enough to make me feel like I was going mad. :( In the end, I realised I had to stop giving him the opportunity to steal from me. It wasn't just about the money; it was also giving him repeated 'practice' at disrespecting me. I carry my wallet/cash around with me at all times, or keep it locked inside my bedroom. I had locks fitted on the bedroom doors specially. I shouldn't have had to, but I did.

[smellsabit]

i have 4 teens
it is a big issue
i feel 2 def do it.
i carry my bag with me
not good
had 30 quid nicked the other week when left it in kitchen inadvertently
HATE them a lot of time.
4 of them makes it much harder to tell who..