First -time post long time lurker- gaining support from others with wayward teenagers. DD is 16 and been attending CAHMs for 1 year plus with mental health issues- anxiety, depression, a bit of oppositional defiant disorder - ie swearing at parents and bad behavour! non-school attendance, self- harming and not eating.. A horrible year. She has attended counselling but is no better and has recently been escalated to tier 4 and offered a place at the day programme.
The self-harming has got worse and two weeks ago we were in A & E twice, the last time for 5 stitches. Last week I found her in our bathroom ( third time) at 1am, with ?25 cuts on her arm, dripping blood. All superficial but very very distressing. When i asked how i could help her she said, buy me cigarettes. I was so distressed I did, the next day.
She now wants me to buy them again. CLEARLY, the right answer is to NOT buy them. BUT, would it be worth it for the greater good? If she is less cranky she may attend the day programme. She started on monday, went for two days and missed today- said she couldn't bear to go. Also, if less cranky family life may be more bearable- its all horrible just now?
What would you do?
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moral dilemma over cigarettes- what would you do?
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didntthinkitwouldbelikethis · 27/09/2012 00:48
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