This is my first post, I guess like many others I joined this forum to get some advice. I am a father of 3 children, my eldest is my 16 year old daughter. Her mother and I have been separated for just over a year now. Anyway, to get to the point, my 16 year old daughter has had only very limited experience with boys. She has left school and started college just 2 weeks ago. She has met a 17 year old guy there that she is now in a relationship with. Neither her mother nor I have ever met this guy, and doing the typical dad thing, I checked him out on facebook. I have no genuine reason for feeling this way, but I have a gut feeling that this guy is going to reel her in, chew her up and then spit her out! As I?m sure is true of most 17 year old boys, I expect he is going to try to rush my daughter in to a sexual relationship.
Today, she has set off to meet him for the first time on her own, and though her mum has given her the 'stay safe' speech, I am very concerned about her meeting on her own with this guy that she has so recently met. Naturally, she has been told to stay in public areas, and avoid isolated spots, but when she is out there, she will do her own thing. I am perhaps for the first time as a parent hit by the feeling that there is little or nothing I can do to prevent this relationship. After all, she sees him Monday-Fridays at college, and during that time she is free to do exactly as she wants. Don?t get me wrong, it?s not that I distrust my daughter, its more that I do not trust this boy! As I said, my distrust is based only on a gut instinct! I believe my daughter is still quite naive at 16, and that she may be easily led by this ?street-wise? guy.
I have only just found out about this relationship, and intend to discuss my concerns with my daughter when I next see her. I can?t prevent the relationship, especially s the ?absent? father, if either myself or her mum tried to condemn the relationship then the lines of communication would probably close, and the likelihood is that she would still see him anyway. We just wouldn?t know about it.
I guess my question is, how do I deal with my daughter growing up and spreading her wings? Am I just being a typical dad? Should I back off? My head is doing somersaults going backwards and forwards over the issues. Advice please!
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Roy1265 · 15/09/2012 11:23
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