Hello
I'm really struggling with my DS who is 16 years old. Up until he was 15 he was a happy, smiley kid who I had a great relationship with however; the past 18 months have been hellish. He is my only child so I could be being totally irrational but I just feel at such a loss with him. Over the past 18 months we have incidents of stealing, lying, aggressive behaviour, fighting at school, smoking (cigarettes and weed) and generally being very argumentative and just plain awful. He changed pretty much over night and I have really struggled to adapt to being the parent of a teenager and I think I've made a bit of a hash of it.
DS now has a gf of the sme age who if I'm honest I really don't like but I make the effort with her and try not to show what I think. We recently allowed DS to start staying out at hers once a week but we told him that we wouldn't allow it more frequently than that as we felt it was irresponsible of us to encourage them to sleep together. I know that they are having sex as DS has talked to me about it which resulted in us arranging a sexual health test for him as his gf had clamidia?!?!? We were disgusted by this but ds is not fazed.
More recently we have found that DS is really pushing the boundries and once he gets up at his gf's he won't come home. I'm bombarded with a series of texts until I can't be bothered with the agro any further and just tell him to do what he likes. This has caused massive issues in our house and everything over the past few months has has put a massive strain on my marriage. His gf's dad seems to just let them do whatever they want which frightens the life out of me - she has been able to have her bf's stay over for ages and her 13 year old sister the same. She taunts him about being a baby and threatens to finish him if he can't stay over which he says is my doing beacause I won't let him stay out more.
This week he told me he was going to stay at his gf's for a while because he hates me and can't wait to leave our house, which he says he can't stand. He said there is nothing I can do about it. We've only ever given him the best and have always tried to encourage and support him but on reflection, I think we've maybe spoilt him too much as he has no appreciation for anything or any respect for us.
Sorry for the rant, I feel like I'm laid on a couch lol, am I being too over protective and should I just let him do what he wants depsite the fact that he appears to be throwing all his opportunities away such as college etc in favour of spending time with grotbags?
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Am I being unfair, please tell me straight! Sorry for rambling
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Ineedaparentinguide · 30/06/2012 10:46
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