DS (15yo but with possible SEN) got out of the wrong side of bed this morning. He was in a complete strop because he hadn't woken up early enough to have the shower that I had asked him to fit in (to his rigorous schedule of internet gaming) last night.
Much incomprehensible shouting and crashing ensued. He then proceeded to spent half an hour in the bathroom, risking missing the school bus.
I went downstairs and made his packed lunch for him.
More incomprehensible shouting and crashing revealed that his school shirt was dirty. Obviously the domestic here isn't working hard enough.
It was a bit smelly although not visibly dirty. I did what any good mother would do and sprayed him with Febreze. All the others were by now in the washing machine. DS then objected to the new smell and started screaming at me and throwing himself round the house. He was running out of time to get the bus and had clearly already blown the chance to walk his dog and eat breakfast.
I reverted to the usual technique which is to confiscate his laptop+ipod+notebook. Unfortunately today this didn't have the usual effect of calming him down. I told him that for every word of argument more I would keep it for another day.
He came up the stairs screaming and wagging his finger in my face. I shouted back then realised best to walk away and went in my room. He followed me and kicked the door repeatedly.
He used to be like this all the time. He gets in a rage and blames everyone for his own problems rather than dealing with them. It's more scary now he's as big as me. I was struggling to get all my clothes on as quickly as possible, I just wanted to get out of the house. I only spoke to him to remind him that it would be a wet walk to school then I managed to get out of there with the dog.
As I was driving away I saw him coming down the road with his rucksack on, he may well have made the bus in time.
I feel really shaken and really sad. What the hell is this boy going to be like when he's an adult? I fear the answer to that is 'just like his dad' (DV and EA to me for years). But I have really tried to bring him up right. I pity any girlfriend he gets in the future. I just want to cry but don't want to feel any weaker than I already do.
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CuttedUpPear · 01/05/2012 08:50
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