Hi I am new to this, but desperate for some advise. I am 53 with a son who has just turned 13. He is really bright and attends an independant school where he is in the top 3 out of 117 pupils in his year. He is really eloquent which is where the problems begin. We are a normal family, live in a nice house and my husband has a good job, but I was brought up in a 1 parent family in a council house, so do not take what we have for granted, neither does my husband. T on the otherhand appears to vocally despise anyone from a council house, on benefits, foreign, any religion in fact anyone who he deems to be not to his liking. He is very vocal about all subjects on the news and can see no other point but his own, even though we desperately try to make him see that everyone has the right to there own opinions and to live how they like.
On top of this he is openly rude and hostile towards me, he is great with his dad, but he calls me the large one, as I am a bit overweight, he pushes me around - say's he is only playing, he orders me about and calls me his slave, again this is supposed to be a joke. It has now got so bad that I could leave him and could not care less if he died. What kind of mother does that make me, I have absolutely no feelings for him whatsover.
We have tried sending him to bed, confiscating things, banning him from going out, stoppoing friends coming round, saying we will remove him from his school, in fact everything but nothing works. I hate being left alone with him and going on holiday or out with him is hell, the last time we went out for a day I had been reading on the journey and nothing untoward had been said, but I go to get out of the car and he said "do you like looking like you do, aren't you embarrased - I am 5ft 4" and size 16 - 18 hardly gross. Needless to say it spoilt my day.
Tonight I gave a friend a lift who he does not thinks fits with his idea of the perfect world and he was openly rude, but just cannot see what he is doing wrong. Our neighbours are deaf and dumb and he take the mickey out of them even when he thinks they can't see. and doesn't care if they do.
Does anyone know where I can get some help, before I do something serious or just walk out.
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mrsmobbs · 06/03/2012 19:20
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