Hello, I now this probably isn't the place to put this, but I need advice, and I know there are more people on here than anywhere else.
My Dad has asked me to have "a word" with my 15 yo sister. My Dad is 60, mum 59, so are totally out of touch with sis who I will call C for clarity. I am 20 years her senior.
C is a lovely girl, very young for her age, an eccentric, quirky character and we all love her to bits. She has had trouble forming friendships in secondary school, and is largley ignored by her peers.
6 months ago she began a relationship with a boy at school she had idolised for a year. He dumped her.
She was completely heartbroken, and I so felt for her I even shed a few tears myself.
We have a HUGE family and are all very close, and everyone tried to support and empathise with C but she was unreachable.
All she did all day was mope and mooch and bared her absolute heart on, of all places, FACEBOOK. Things got absolutely ridiculous, she was BEGGING this boy to come back to her, she acted totally without dignity and I and other members of our family implored her to lick her wounds in private rather than letting the world in on her pain, because one day this boy would mean NOTHING to her, she'd feel silly, and people would take the piss relentlessly.
She said okay, thankyou, and continued her ridiculous public campaign to win him back. Now he's back.
The reason my Dad wants me to have a word is that he's found her diary (didn't now it was a diary, thought it was just a notebook...ahem) and in it she has said that the boy told her he'd finished it because he'd "wanted to take things further" so Dad thinks she's perhaps in danger of being pressured into sex.
I think the boy went straight to another girl when he broke up with C, then presumably broke up before giving in to C's shameless emotional blackmail.
The fact that she is more or less friendless at school is important, she has created a bubble around the two of them, he is her everything. I just hope she is his.
My Dad says she has scratched his initials into her arm ("scratch my name on your arm with a fountain pen, this means you really love me" are lyrics in a song by The Smiths, who C loves) Dad went mad at her, she denied it being initials, and said her boy hadn't done the same for her (not that that would make it better, but may indicate a mutual depth of feelings?)
I believe she would do anything to keep him.
He is 16. I hope to god they haven't had sex yet, I'm going to have to ask outright, but could anyone PLEASE give any advice of how to handle this
a) if she hasn't yet slept with him but feels pressure to do so
and
b) if she HAS slept with him. I worry about this mostly as their relationship will be defined by sex and very little else, I fear.
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BoastingByStealth · 22/09/2011 15:59
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