Hi Everyone
This is my first post so please bear with me...
My DD was 15 last week, and I have had a recurring problem where she behaves herself for a while until she pushes me to the limit and I explode. I try talking to her and we seem to be getting on fine the she does something sneaky behind my back that makes me doubt her. latest example is: she does competitive rowing and I have said no makeup on for training as they get sweaty and it will make her skin break out (she has a few spots but nothing serious) well she was alone in the house and getting picked up by a friend?s mother, she thought my DH would not be back before she went out - but he came back early and she had a face full of slap. She knows she is not meant to do this and tried to lie and make excuses saying she only had a little bit on and it was a top up from the morning. This is the second time in a week we have caught her lying
She seems to think she is some sort of princess, she is spoilt as she is an only child but some of her friends are loaded we are very far from it and I feel that they are having a negative effect on her i.e.: lack of respect of her own things iPod - iphone - etc...
I think everything is ok and then she does something that makes me think I?m wasting my breath. We have in the past confiscated the phone, iPod, grounded her not spoken to her unless essential.
If she didn't lie I think it would be so bad, I just don't feel I can trust her.
How can I build trust, she is basically a good kid, getting good grades and has won a lot of medals for rowing. We are now at the point of saying she will not get to go to rowing training for a week if the lying, sneaky behaviour does not stop. I am really happy she goes to the rowing training as its 5 times as week she is gettting exercise and workign in a team etc...
This might seem a small problem to some but i'm struggling, i had DD at 17 and up until now i've had a good little girl, i know she is growing up and wants to be her own person but if i set rules and boundaries she must obey them ?? right ???
any comments are welcome
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jennybee1408 · 05/09/2011 14:17
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