dd turned 14 last month and im finding her really trying.
I realise hormones are at work, but she is surly, wont talk to me, she wont let me in her room without mass protest and is secretive.
I am really open, i dont get embarrassed and have told her she can speak to me about anything, but her embarrassment stops her. She gets embarrassed and moody about everything - i bought her some bras the other day and she wouldnt even let me adjust the straps for her.
I found out that she was talking to some lad on FB, and in the end she told me she had a boyfriend but it wasnt this FB lad - they were just best mates she said...
after much protest she eventually told me she had a boyfriend and showed me him on FB.
She told me he was 13 "but really tall"
He added me on FB a few days ago - seems he is actually 16. When i casually told her that this lad had added me she went mad, and next time i logged on he has vanished from my friends list....
During the holidays she is out almost every day - she always stays in touch, always texts me, tells me where she is etc and ive never had any reason to doubt her, but she always tells me she is with girl friends....she must be seeing this lad somewhere and sometime but whenever i ask she denies it. (i wouldnt even mind if she just told me!)
i do have access to her FB account and she knows this - but i promised i wouldnt invade her privacy unless she gave me reason to.
The way i see this we have two options. (dh is going to try and speak to her - last ditch attempt though i doubt she will open up any more to him than me but you never know)
option 1 is to simply trust what she is telling me, stay out of her business and hope to god that she is as sensible as i always thought she was
option 2 is to get tougher on her arse - tell her if she doesnt stop being so secretive that she isnt going out, that i want openess and honesty in order to earn trust.
what have other mums to teen girls done? when do they "come back"? i have always been really close to her and im finding this a wee bit hurtful though im trying to understand that she finds all this massively embarrassing....and i know she is at that awkward age....
but i really dont know how to handle this....help me, please!
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ThatVikRinA22 · 08/08/2011 15:09
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