Firstly, I apologise for this long message!
I am in desparte need of some advice regarding my son. Since he was about 13 he has been hard work, ignoring house rules, causing trouble at school ect and more recently an incident involving the police which resulted in community service. He left school with a handful of GCSE's, not great grades, started a college course which he dropped out of and has had a few jobs in the last 3 years, which have either come to an end or he has decided to leave. He is activly looking for work, but sayes there is nothing out there that he wants to do! He does not seem to realise that most of us are working in jobs we dont want to do! He will not sign on as he feels this is beneath him! He asks me for money on a daily basis which stupidly I give him. I have funded a motorbike to make things easier for him to get around as we live in a rural area, this was on the promise that he would find a job as soon as he got his bike, and yes you guessed it he still has no job and that was 2 months ago!
He lives at home in a house (rented) completly funded by me with no help from him. I have recently bought a house about 20 miles away with my partner and tend to spend most of my time there as it is easier for my job. My son often makes me feel guilty about not spending time at home especially when I say I am not giving him any money and yes I do give in!My son and my partner dont get on at all which dosnt help. This is through no fault of my partners as he has done everything over the last 10 years he could to get on with my son.
As you can imagine i am broke! I am funding two houses and giving my lazy son money on a daily basis! I am going without basic things for myself to try to keep everybody happy!I cry on a daily basis and think I may have slight depression, I seriously have forgotton how it feels to feel happy as I cant see any end to this situation.I am not looking for sympathy as I know i am very weak and struggle to say no, I just needed to get everything of my chest and hope somebody can give me some advice. Thanks for reading xxx
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blue1234 · 11/07/2011 12:54
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