ok I know you're not supposed to react BUT I have a limit and was pushed way over yesterday. Had to stop the car and get out for 15 mins to calm down, then I could barely look at him for the rest of the journey.
How do others cope with the "smart" talk from their teens?
I turn it around on him! They maybe going through a change etc. no excuse for bad language at all!!!! I actually dont talk until he says sorry!!!! Remember that advert on telly where the mother has a tantrum in the aisle... well thats me!!!! it works!
Next time, tell HIM to get out of the car. Be prepared to sit there until he does get out. Lock the doors. After 15 minutes or whatever drop the window, tell him precisely where he has gone wrong. If he apologises then he can get back in. If he doesnt then he has a long walk ahead of him.
When you get home explain again where he went wrong. Ask him if he considers what he said appropriate or clever when viewed from your perspective. If he wont aknowledge the problem then advise him that Shank's pony can be hitched in the yard.
I do have three DCs and all examples of 'gobbyness' are jumped on immediately.