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my youngest is 18 and wants to get engaged

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solospud Thu 07-Jul-11 12:21:44

H e is in love with a lovely sri lankan girl but i think he is too young but he has already bought a ring

Geepers Thu 07-Jul-11 12:24:16

Oh well. Not much you can do about it is there?

solospud Thu 07-Jul-11 12:26:27

he he is quite a forceful youngster but a good lad also

kreecherlivesupstairs Fri 08-Jul-11 07:37:45

I shouldn't worry. I was engaged at 15 then again at 16 and then at 18. I married at 23.
None of the boys I was engaged to is my DH.
I am not sure why you mentioned her nationality. Is she in Sri Lanka or UK?

cory Fri 08-Jul-11 08:41:08

He is an adult. Not really for you to decide whether he is old enough to do something or not; that's what adults do for themselves.

fwiw I met dh on a foreign holiday aged 19, knew at once that this was the man for me, we were engaged for 10 years living in different countries and have been married for nearly 20.

My niece fell in love with a boy in the class below hers in secondary, they lived together from the time he left school and are getting married this summer (both now in their mid-twenties).

My bf moved in with her boyfriend aged 16: they have been married over 30 years now.

We all took risks and knew it, it could have gone pear-shaped, but in the end that was our look-out.

kreecherlivesupstairs Sat 09-Jul-11 07:12:00

When is the wedding planned for?

LornMowa Sun 10-Jul-11 10:46:17

I know that your son is an adult but I think that you are right to be concerned.

These days it is hard enough for a young person to find a job which pays enough to support themselves. If the young woman doesn't already have the right to live and work in this country, the way the immigration laws are framed, it is likely that your son would have to support them both with no recourse to public funds.

I know it isn't very romantic but your son would be wise to forget planning a wedding until he is sure of the financial commitment. Like any contract, marriage comes with rights and responsibilities and this marriage may mean that the young man would have to rely heavily (and perhaps unreasonably) on other members of his family.

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