Am I doing the right thing?

[JazD]

My 17yo DD recently confessed to me that she drinks most nights she's out. At the moment this is usually only a few nights a month and she's never come home more than tipsy, and if she's ever hungover, she just gets on with it, no moaning or anything. Because she's being sensible I'm allowing this, on the agreement she's always careful (never walks home alone, leaves her drink unattended, gets so drunk she's sick etc. )

Am I doing the right thing??? :S

[mumsamilitant]

Absolutely fine. Dont see anything wrong in that. She is 17! and seems to handle it well.....

[c0rn551Lk]

sounds fine to me

[cory]

The only thing I might possibly query is where is she getting her alcohol from- is she for instance lying about her age in a pub and putting some busy landlord at risk of losing his licence? That's something I would not pretend to be happy with.

[JazD]

No cory I think older friends buy the drinks. She looks too young to get away with lying about her age (well I think she does anyway) and she'd never use fake ID.

[SpringchickenGoldBrass]

As long as she's careful in terms of not getting stupidly, pant-pissingly drunk and walking home alone, leave her to it: being able to drink sociably and sensibly is a good life skill.

[Schtum]

My seventeen year old does the same as your's OP.

I'm also ok with it.

My DD also does not have fake ID because she says it's expensive to buy it off the Internet and that bouncers often take it people if they think it's fake. She says that apparently these bouncers then sell these IDs on to other kids. Clearly it's a complete racket.

Luckily, most of her "night's out" are actually "night's in" at a friend's house with a bunch of friends, some food and a few drinks and parents nearby.

[mumeeee]

OP even if her older friends are buying the drinks for her. If they are in a pub the landlord could still lose his licence. Our 19 year old was drinking with us once and a batman saw her and asked for her ID.