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Am I doing the right thing?

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JazD Fri 24-Jun-11 21:46:04

My 17yo DD recently confessed to me that she drinks most nights she's out. At the moment this is usually only a few nights a month and she's never come home more than tipsy, and if she's ever hungover, she just gets on with it, no moaning or anything. Because she's being sensible I'm allowing this, on the agreement she's always careful (never walks home alone, leaves her drink unattended, gets so drunk she's sick etc. )

Am I doing the right thing??? :S

mumsamilitant Fri 24-Jun-11 23:27:17

Absolutely fine. Dont see anything wrong in that. She is 17! and seems to handle it well.....

c0rn551Lk Fri 24-Jun-11 23:27:59

sounds fine to me

cory Fri 24-Jun-11 23:57:34

The only thing I might possibly query is where is she getting her alcohol from- is she for instance lying about her age in a pub and putting some busy landlord at risk of losing his licence? That's something I would not pretend to be happy with.

JazD Sat 25-Jun-11 00:45:15

No cory I think older friends buy the drinks. She looks too young to get away with lying about her age (well I think she does anyway) and she'd never use fake ID.

Maryz Sat 25-Jun-11 16:54:11

I'd be surprised if she never uses fake ID, though I bow to your superior knowledge of her grin. All the 17 year olds I know have fake ID's, and they also seem to swap around ID's - once the girls have makeup on, it is difficult to tell one from another in a queue for a nightclub.

dd is younger than all her friends, and I suspect will carry a fake ID when she is 17, or she won't be able to go to all her friend's 18th birthday parties - I haven't decided yet whether or not to turn a blind eye, but would probably rather she didn't tell me.

ds, on the other hand, seems to have been regularly served in pubs and off-licences since he was about 14 hmm, I have no idea how.

As long as she's careful in terms of not getting stupidly, pant-pissingly drunk and walking home alone, leave her to it: being able to drink sociably and sensibly is a good life skill.

Schtum Sat 25-Jun-11 17:15:38

My seventeen year old does the same as your's OP.

I'm also ok with it.

My DD also does not have fake ID because she says it's expensive to buy it off the Internet and that bouncers often take it people if they think it's fake. She says that apparently these bouncers then sell these IDs on to other kids. Clearly it's a complete racket.

Luckily, most of her "night's out" are actually "night's in" at a friend's house with a bunch of friends, some food and a few drinks and parents nearby.

mumeeee Sun 26-Jun-11 14:56:36

OP even if her older friends are buying the drinks for her. If they are in a pub the landlord could still lose his licence. Our 19 year old was drinking with us once and a batman saw her and asked for her ID.

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