i posted on here a story about DD and a drug debt.
Well it wasn't her debt. She wasn't on drugs- never has been. It was the boyfriend. He forced her to tell us that so he could get the money for his own debts- he lied to my face and I believed him. He was so credible. I even posted on here how he'd had a tough time but seemed like a really nice lad. Oh how wrong can you be? And what an idiot I feel.
She pawned everything she owned ( or we had given her) to get him money. He even pawned a special gold watch that his father had given him and wanted to get it back because his dad would have thrown him out if he found out about the watch and the drugs. ( he lives in his dads old flat and his dad lives elsewhere )
His dad even phoned me to ask if I knew where the watch was because he suspected something was wrong and I said I didn't know.
The upshot is that DD asked for help to get away from him so I took her to my brother in Spain, which is where she is now. The downside is this boy has continually pestered her. Threatening to stab my son, do us harm, kill himself you name it he's said it.
He's been to our house, texted me. Called DD all the names under the sun, told her he's going out to get another girl, told here he's in hospital, all interspersed with saying he loves her, he needs her, he's changed etc etc.
Her head is so done in that she doesn't know what to think anymore.
I've had to leave her there(she wanted to stay, I didn't make her) because my youngest has to go back to school. Now I'm gone she's wavering because she still loves him, he's saying all the right things and promising to change.
Now, I know and you know, that it's not likely. But he's her first love and she so longs to believe him.
So here I am, sick with fear that she'll go back to him. Knowing if she does, we'll probably have to go through all this again.
I can't force her to do anything. I have to step back and let her make her own choices, no matter how wrong I think she is.
I could have told his dad about the watch. He would be kicked out and have to go back to where he came from in another town, to his mum and family members who think it's ok to do drugs, steal, lie, anything to get by. But I didn't because DD wouldn't have forgiven me. But bloody hell, I feel so angry I wish I had.
It's so hard.
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Downnotout · 02/05/2011 21:32
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