We got a phone call yesterday to say my son was being excluded from school for the third time this year ? the first was for smoking cannabis at school in January, the second was for pushing a female teacher when she stopped him from playing pitch and toss (which is gambling) in early October and on Tuesday he was verbally aggressive and intimidating towards a teacher.
If he had gone in and apologised on Wednesday it might not have come to an exclusion but he didn?t, he verbally abused and was aggressive towards another female teacher.
We got a call to say if he continued like this he would be expelled.
We know he won?t change so didn?t want to give him a chance to let this happen so we told the school it was his last day yesterday and went to collect him.
He has been hanging round with a bad crowd for 2 years now, lots of them have been excluded and I think they are trying to outdo each other. There is no ?street cred? in your mum and dad taking you out of school, but there is if you get thrown out.
He is bright and intelligent (he passed two GCSEs last year a year early) but everything went downhill when he was 13 ½ - we have had nothing but problems since ? including a full 14 months of truanting.
The drug problem is no longer there, he comes from a good home, two parents together, no money worrries ? I have thought for the past few months now that he has a conduct disorder. He has a problem with authority, although things did improve 75% at home over the last couple of months as he had been a nightmare to live with.
My husband has recently lost his job and £20K along with it, his mother is in a nursing home with final stage Alzheimers but this pales into insignificance compared to the stress we have been under this year with our son.
Strangely now I feel very calm although my husband wanted to kill him yesterday.
There is the possibility of him going to a local sixth form to complete his GCSEs. He said he still wants to do A levels even though he has continued with this behaviour in Year 11.
Has anyone else had experience of this? The school said they will sort something out but should I be contacting the Education Committee? It is not an option for him to go to another school as there is only 20 weeks left of his school year.
I don?t know who will complete the college application forms now. He needed a report from school for two of them.
I have just phoned the Educational Psychology Service ? I don?t understand why someone wants to throw their life away like this ? surely it can?t just be down to peer pressure?
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I've just taken my Year 11 son out of school before he got the chance for them to expel him
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