Hullo LL It's almost impossible to find impartial pros and cons - I've tried. Everything posted, both for and against, seems coloured by some kind of agenda. It's frustrating.
I think you need to go with your instinct on this. It's your child and your choice, so although its hard you'll pretty much have to make up your own mind. I do know how you feel though. It's such a hard choice isn't it?