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Does surrogacy have to be a formal process or can you simply just get pregnant?

(8 Posts)
Nicki282 Tue 16-Aug-16 22:11:19

Not asking for any specific reason just wondering.

Does a surrogate have to go through a formal process or is it as easy as going to the doctors when pregnant and saying your carrying it for someone else?

SouthPole Fri 09-Sep-16 20:54:36

Yes, it is as simple as that.

There's a lot more to it, obviously!

2 time surro here.

AppleJac Fri 09-Sep-16 20:55:44


allthecarbs Fri 09-Sep-16 20:58:01

You take the pregnancy on as your own I think.

If using your own eggs that baby is legally yours until you sign to hand it over after birth.

Sorry for being nosey but is it something you are doing? I've always wanted to but dh hates the idea of it. It's an amazing gift.

caroldecker Fri 09-Sep-16 21:32:57

AFAIK, even if not your own eggs, the baby is legally yours (in the UK) and the surrogate mother can claim maintenance from the father.

SouthPole Mon 12-Sep-16 21:48:54

Both my surrogate babies were nothing to do with me genetically but my husband and I are their legal parents until the Parental Order is granted (6 weeks to 6 months after birth).

And THAT is why Wills of both surrogate and husband and the Intended Parents are so important...

Lumdeedums Sun 09-Oct-16 15:59:27

Also a two times surrogate and have been both TS (used my eggs) and GS (IVF. No relation) and although there is t masses of laws surrounding surrogacy it does have to be formal and done correctly.
Surrogates in the UK, TS or GS are the legal mothers and their husband or civil partner are the legal second parent. In order for the Intended Parwnts to get legal responsibility of their child and the surrogates rights extinguished, they get a Parental Order.
You need to have an agreement outlining intentions of all. This covers pretty much everything from testing to termination, loss to wat to do upon the birth.
Though not legally binding it's needed usually by cafcass who investigate to write a report for the court for the PO.
You also need life insurance for the surrogate for 2 years for £200,000 or so.
Def not something you should just 'wing'.

Hilary37 Fri 05-May-17 18:33:12

Hello all
Myself and my husband have found a surrogate and we have decided between the three of us to enter into this privately ie without going through an agency or paying a lawyer £600 plus!
We have however looked into the legal implications and are fully informed and aware.
We would however like our surrogate to attend some counselling before we begin as we are going to everything we can to support her along the way.
I am finding it difficult to find a counsellor willing to speak to her as we are not connected to a fertility clinic. Reason being because we are going to attempt 3 home insenimations before going to iui.
Can anyone help with finding a private counsellor?

Lots of love and luck to all!

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