Surrogacy outside of the UK(8 Posts)
Hi all! I thought I would introduce myself before I ask my question, since this is my first time posting here.
I'm Nicole, I'm 36, I've been married to my husband for 9 wonderful years, and we have three children; a 6 year old daughter and 4 year old twin boys. I'm a stay at home mum to the kids, but I'm also a trained primary school teacher. We live in the Lothians area of Scotland, and I've lived in the area for most of my life.
I am currently looking into being a surrogate for my very close friend of 30 years, called Iona. She is coming up for 36, has been married to her husband for 7 years, he's 34, and they have a son, who is also 4. Due to various reasons, Iona had to have a full hysterectomy shortly after the birth of her son, but because they had went through IVF to conceive their son, they still have frozen embryos.
The issue is that they don't live in the UK anymore; they live in the Netherlands, where internal surrogacy is illegal for non-Dutch-citizens, but surrogacy abroad is legal for everyone, which is why I offered in the first place. We've been speaking about this and researching it for about 7 months, and we think we understand the basics of the legal procedure on the Dutch side of things, but we still have no idea how it would work on the British side of things, as regards to being a surrogate for someone that lives abroad.
Does anyone know if you can be a surrogate for someone who lives abroad in the UK, or where I might find this information? I considered joining COTS or SUK, but they seem to deal with only matching surrogates to IPs, and we've already done that part.
Hello, and welcome
May I just suggest that you don't use real names or other very identifiable information in a post - it could compromise your privacy and that of your friends, if you see what I mean.
You could report your own post to MNHQ if you would like them to edit it or they might suggest you copy and paste it and start another thread without the identifying whatnot in it
Sorry to be a downer and I hope you get the help you need - someone here is bound to know.
I have been named Patti, the same as my mum. Cancer killed her when I was kid. It was uterine disease.
I’m overly grateful to her for that she could give me a birth before she left. Cause I’m in love of this life very much. My poor father raised and took care about me. And I really wish repay him. I wanna gift him a little grandchild or two. But a bit more than 5 years ago my gynecological issue has been surfaced.
I got engaged and married at 35, now I’m 40. Maybe you can ask me why I didn’t meet my love earlier. I’d answer that spent my own time studying and working hard, I was creating my career and social status, but currently these values seem even pointless without crying and playing babies. My husband and I have been tried to conceive during two years (the proper term for usual way pregnancy) but we could not. I was thinking about my mum and believed that Lightning never strikes the same place twice.
The first medical research showed that I had serious hormonal disorders presumably caused by numerous stresses and overwork. The second one specified that it was pituitary’s reasons. Specialists said I couldn’t get pregnant and have a baby. I suggested nowadays it’s not very great problem. There’re modern and super equipment at the clinics over the world especially if client has great crave being a parent and cash also.
We decided to try IVF. 3 embryos were transferred – BFN.
The second and the third attempts finished the similar way. Almost 3 years were full of disappointment and heart pain. Our doctor explained that my biological systems produced cells-killers attacking the embryo inside me recognizing it as foreign body, and the next my steps within IVF would be the same unsuccessful.
We were first faced with a question of surrogacy. Difficult topic. I was assured that being a mother it was to undergo through all phases of the pregnancy, feeling morning sickness and feeling a child inside under your heart.
From the one hand it’s a moral esthetic problem, cause your tot should be delivered by another woman, who ‘ll not ever see him after delivery.
In a word doubts filled me, doubts and fear. My DH maintains me, he’s not young already. He has huge experience and a daughter from the first marriage but loves me and hopes everything will turn alright.
He said to me “If You wanna our family to be full, and full of happiness we must do it. You are to close your eyes, open your motherhood’s heart and run toward our goal, darling!”
He’s the best of all, he’s wise and rules. And I’m psychologically ready to try surrogacy program to take part in it. Now we’re chasing the net, searching for good options of reproduction centers.
We’re informed that Greece and Ukraine have available and quality variants. We’ve been to Greece before the crisis but never been to Ukraine. In any cases I guess that summer trip to the Sea could not give a lot knowledge about surrogacy motherhood in the country. Dear girls, I ask you to help me! Please! Could someone tell about surrogacy? Thank U VM.
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