Hi I’m looking for some serious advice and a friend if I’m honest. Feeling really shit and I don’t quite know what to do with myself.
So I know my husband uses cocaine socially when out and it’s something that’s really not bothered me before, he’s always not brought it into the house (so I believed) and was just a thing he has always done when out drinking with friends which was probably once every 3/6 months. We both loved crazy lifestyles before we settled down to have children and got married and I totally grew up and never touched anything of the sort since I was younger.
It so transpires the last 18minths I’d say he has been working a more relaxed job, a lot of working from home and late starts and has gotten into a terrible routine of staying up late and lying in. This has caused so many arguments as we have 2 small children and it seems to be me who is forever the one getting up and doing stuff untilL he decides to surface around midday by then he is very helpful. But still for me it’s not the best routine as I’m pregnant and I feel the pressure. I know he has been doing drugs at home now and then to which I beg him to not do with the kids in the house! I know this is selfish and he promises me he doesn’t... what can I do other than try and believe him. Things have just got totally worse.
I found underwear in the house. I confronted him in which he has admitted to having a stripper over whilist I was away!! He was totally in pieces ans confesses to me a party got out of hand with friends and it’s toatlly innocent. I mean how is that even innocent. Did he not stop and think for a second how disrespectful it is?! After me hitting the roof and him I’m tears he has confessed to me that he has a problem with cocaine and things got out of hand.
I mean you couldn’t write it could u?! I’m in utter shock.
- I knew there was an issue with drugs that was developing and I want to help him through that
But 2. What the hell!!! How can I be emotional support and there for him through this addiction when he has completely disrespected me and our family in our home!!! I’m livid. I don’t know what to do. Do I leave? Or do I see this addiction through as a wife and mother and then sort our relationship problems out when things go have settled down.
Old me would pack my bags and never look back but this man is the love of my life And for our beautiful children i just don’t know what to do!