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£500 a month on cocaine?

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namechange101321 Mon 10-Sep-18 20:32:13

Can someone tell me if this is a lot in terms of recreational cocaine usage?

I've just discovered H is spending this much on cocaine a month. He says he's fine and it's part and parcel of working in banking in London and it's just recreational but I feel like it sounds like a lot?! More than recreational/occasional usage and moving in to addiction territory...?!

He is tee-total, faithful, likes to exercise.. so this is his only 'vice' but I don't want it getting out of control.

I'm a complete novice and know nothing about cocaine so if someone could provide some insight I'd be grateful!

Have name changed for this, obviously.

ItsJustTheOneSwanActually Mon 10-Sep-18 20:35:55

hmm...I worked in investment banking in London for 15 years and managed not to take it at all hmm

I mean, it went on, but it wasn't part and parcel. That sounds like a lot of minimising to me.

FilledSoda Mon 10-Sep-18 20:38:05

All for his own personal use or to share?
It's not much , coke is really expensive.
I'd be worried about it being a regular / long term thing though, that suggests dependency .

namechange101321 Mon 10-Sep-18 20:38:50

I think you're right @ItsJustTheOneSwanActually my H is certainly minimising ☹️ but I don't know how big of a problem he has. I don't mind anyone dabbling I'm occasional drug use but £500 a month sounds excessive, although I could be wrong as I have no idea how much £500 buys or how long it should last etc.

PotteringAlong Mon 10-Sep-18 20:40:13

£6k a year on class A drugs sounds like a lot to me.

AnyFucker Mon 10-Sep-18 20:40:21

Is anyone seriously this naive ? hmm

knackpease Mon 10-Sep-18 20:40:36

It is a significant amount and likely to be causing him long term health problems. The benefits he gets from exercising & being tee total will be extinguished by regular cocaine use.

namechange101321 Mon 10-Sep-18 20:41:04

@FilledSoda all on his own 😳 We live in Centra London, I don't know if prices are a regional thing and it's very expansive here as opposed to somewhere else in the UK and also if dealers know people like my H are good for the money so rip them off.

Ceeeeeelia Mon 10-Sep-18 20:42:21

Erm - nothing to do with working in banking in London. Most of us manage to get through the day without putting things up our nose.

HollowTalk Mon 10-Sep-18 20:44:23

OP, I agree with AnyFucker. Are you really that naive? While you might not know how much it costs, surely you know that £500 per month is a lot? It would be a lot if you were buying perfume or shoes or alcohol or chocolates - why do you think it might not be a lot of cocaine? You know it's not something only millionaires can buy.

I couldn't be doing with him taking any at all, but spending £500 on it and minimising it? No way.

namechange101321 Mon 10-Sep-18 20:45:30

@AnyFucker I haven't posted in AIBU, I'm posting in Addiction support so please be gentle.

ChainVaper Mon 10-Sep-18 23:14:45

Ok..... a gram of coke is about £100 for fairly decent stuff in London so that’s a gram and a quarter a week which tbh isn’t a lot at all in terms of consumption. On a night out you could do a half to one gram alone ( more too but I never have!) so it doesn’t sound like he’s a daily user- think £350-£500 a week would be more the figure then. Keep an eye on it for it getting any more frequent.

RLOU30 Mon 10-Sep-18 23:22:25

Depending on the quality £500 worth is anything from 5-10 grams a month so let’s say he is using 1.5 grams a week- that’s roughly 15 lines a week.

flossietoot Mon 10-Sep-18 23:27:30

Sounds all a bit sad to be honest. What are your next steps going to be?? Do you have kids?

Ohyesiam Mon 10-Sep-18 23:31:42

Tell him to demonstrate it’s not a worrying amount by not doing any for a month.

firehousedog1 Mon 10-Sep-18 23:38:13

That's a lot to be spending on recreational drugs yes. You could have a bloody good holiday on that money and still loads leftover.

psicat Mon 10-Sep-18 23:54:34

"Ohyesiam

Tell him to demonstrate it’s not a worrying amount by not doing any for a month."

👆 This. I recently did this with my OH (booze not coke). He got extremely defensive, had a strop, muttered for several days and generally shocking behaviour. I ignored it. After a week, he has admitted maybe he needs to cut back and has swapped to alcohol free beers with just occasionally drinking if with mates or his dad.

£500 is a) a lot of money,
b) even if means "only" doing a gram/1.5g, it is still that much every week/month - that there is a habit
and c) it is of course illegal. What happens if he got a criminal conviction?

I've done enough things in my misspent youth so am not naive in this but it has to be take seriously - the police are more after the dealers usually but they will take action on a user occasionally.

namechange101321 Tue 11-Sep-18 07:37:28

Thanks everyone. H seems very nonchalant about it all and says he can stop at any time so I suggested we open a joint bank account so I can see where all the money is coming and going and keep an eye on things to which he agreed. I'm a SAHM with 2 small DC for those asking.

AnyFucker Tue 11-Sep-18 14:11:43

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glintandglide Tue 11-Sep-18 14:15:39

Anyfucker don’t be cruel.

OP- honest question- why does this worry YOU? Sounds like you can afford it.

You say he’s teetotal. That’s quite unusual for a city party animal and IME quite unusual for someone to take coke without alcohol at all. Is he doing it whilst socialising in the evenings?

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Usernumbers1234 Tue 11-Sep-18 14:19:19

Anyfucker just go back to relationships and get your thrills there like usual.

This is addiction support for someone trying to gather information, if you can’t help, go away.

AsleepAllDay Tue 11-Sep-18 14:19:24

That's at least 4-5 purchases a week, unless he gets big rocks at a time. Otherwise, yes that's a lot. He's not a social sniffer, or an occasional taster, he sounds addicted

AsleepAllDay Tue 11-Sep-18 14:21:19

And it's £2k a month that could be savings, holiday money, expensive clothes, meals out etc. Sounds like it's a priority for him

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