worried silly about drug use

[pendlwitch71]

i have just been told by my eldest that his brother is taking liquid xanax and smoking weed. he is also on mirtazapine for depression which i am aware of. does anyone know if this combination is deadly. My son is also a self harmer. I am worried about what to do. i have just been in his room and found a small bottle of clear liquid with a pipette in the lid. as i have just found out i have not told his dad and my eldest is worried that if i confront his brother, he will not tell him anything else. Please could someone advise me.

[MattDillonsPants]

How old is he Pendle? How worrying...I've had a little google and it would SEEM that Xanax and Mirtazapine aren't dangerous when mixed...but will cause impairments such as dizziness and poor concentration.

With weed I should imagine this is just multiplied.

I think that if your DS is under 18, you can contact CAHMS and ask them for advice. If he is older, then I just don't know...someone will though...hang in there until someone who knows about the help avaiable. comes along.x

[legotits]

Does he vape at all?
Clutching at straws here hoping it's ecig liquid.

Where could he be getting xanax?

[legotits]

I'm assuming you are in the UK.

[pendlwitch71]

Thanks everyone for your comments. He does have a vape and had a chat last night and he said it was vape liquid but he still smoked weed a couple of times a week. Then this morning my youngest (17) said that my son (21) offered him liquid Xanax two weeks ago. Going to GP this afternoon for a chat to see what I can do.

[AliceScarlett]

Not dangerous, hope he can be honest with the gp. Sounds really scary OP, I hope you can get some support. Might be worth thinking about boundaries - what you are and are not willing to tolerate. E.g 'I will not tolerate drugs in the house, if you bring drugs in i will do x, y, z' I think it's important that this has consequences.

Good luck with the gp

[Allottwant]

Pendlwitch, how is your son doing?

We have just discovered our 16 year old daughter is using Xanax heavily, mainly at weekends - she's also smoking weed regularly. We're devastated - knew it was in her social group but thought she was one of the sensible ones! Unfortunately the main supplier is someone she's been absolutely besotted with for a long time with no sign of this changing.

Other members of her social group had started getting very worried about her and one talked to her Mum who thankfully contacted me. We talked to her about it - she was relatively open about using but denied taking in the quantities her friend had said. We went to the GP who spoke to her in confidence and then simply reassured us there was not an addiction problem.

She obviously didn't tell him how much she was using or how regularly and now GP has said he doesn't think there's an addiction problem she seems to think it's ok to still use. I know she's still planning to continue taking as I saw one of her messages today to the boy who supplies.

She has started stealing money and her friends are dropping her as she's trying to blag money from them. They are also obviously fed up with her behaviour changes and concerned about her risky behaviour.

She's agreeing to go to counselling as she recognises there's an underlying problem - anxiety and possibly depression - and I've managed to find a counsellor locally so sessions can start relatively quickly.

We're out of our depth dealing with this - trying to be calm, make sure she has facts and have tried to talk about how things have changed (withdrawing from family, stopping all activities she enjoyed - piano, guitar etc.., looking wasted, poor concentration and starting to struggle with school work, bruised legs from falling over) but it's absolutely terrifying. Everything I've read says it's so easy to overdose, go into heart failure, choke on vomit in the short term and slide into full addiction very quickly.

Any help or advice would be really appreciated

[PresidentOliviaMumsnet]

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