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Straightening hair. Is this frowned upon now??

(37 Posts)
dollydoughnut Sat 13-Jun-09 09:50:56

Just been reading another thread about shiny hair etc. and realised that some people said that the op should not staighten her hair anymore.

I straighten my curly hair most days and hate doing it as my hair is breaking and falling out. However, my hair just never looks right curly anymore and I feel like a middle aged frump (which I probably am) with it. Once it is straight, it lasts longer without attention, looks healthy and I feel much younger.

I have been looking at people with curly hair and am finding it much more interesting than obviously straightened hair. do I go about it?

stitchtime Sat 13-Jun-09 09:55:29

if i had curly hair , then i would leave it curly. but i dont. its straight, but not straight enough without my straighteners.
my only advice wouldl be what my friend with beautifyl curly locks says. and that is only ever go to a hairdresser who herself has curly hair. not sure thats much help

BabyJaguar Sat 13-Jun-09 10:04:49

i think straightening is soul less

Trikken Sat 13-Jun-09 10:08:40

I have very curly hair and I used to always straighten it. I cant at the mo cos I over-did it a bit, but if it makes you happy and you're not over doing it then I say go for it.

princessmel Sat 13-Jun-09 10:12:25

Yes as long as it doesn't look ironed and like a stiff bored then it's fine!!

Anyway all this frowned upon stuff is ridiculous. You have your hair how you want.

I use the straighteners on my fringe, which actually doesn't make it straight but gives it a nice shape.

Sometimes I do all my hair, but then although it feels nice and swishy, it makes quite flat.

fizzpops Sat 13-Jun-09 10:20:57

I am the same as stitchtime - my hair is straightish but just looks as if I haven't bothered with it if I don't straighten it. Plus it is really thick so fairly unmanageable.

There must be some products to 'calm down' really curly hair but I wouldn't know what works best.

I think curly hair is lovely but can see that it would be difficult to manage.

dollydoughnut Sat 13-Jun-09 10:43:12

Thanks for all your messages! I think curly hair is lovely but mine is fine and goes frizzy easily. Also, when you are older (late 40's) I think it looks better when you are more 'groomed'. Otherwise I look a bit unkempt.

Trikken, when you say you 'overdid' it, what happened to your hair?

Trikken Sat 13-Jun-09 11:46:07

I had it on the hottest setting which was too hot for it, didnt twig it would damage it even tho I did think it smelt quite bad, then when i washed it it didnt go back curly as it had and just went wavy and limp. It also kept snapping and breaking. I showed my hairdresser and she said it would have been fine on the lowest setting and to not straighten it as much as I had been doing it every day.

Trikken Sat 13-Jun-09 11:47:38

I do like my hair curly too, but its nice to have smooth managable hair sometimes.

mrswoolf Sat 13-Jun-09 13:35:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TrillianAstra Sat 13-Jun-09 13:40:53

I have curly hair, I straighten it very occassionally but I find after I have straightened it the curls don't come completely back until after the second wash. If you straighten it all the time then I imagine just letting it dry curly once wouldn't be very effective, it'll take a few washes for it to return to its curly state.

brimfull Sat 13-Jun-09 16:55:56

well damaged straightened hair is not a good look

get the split ends cut off and get advice from a decent hairdresser on a cut to suit your curls

poker straight hair is over

mrsmaidamess Sat 13-Jun-09 19:53:36

I used to straighten my naturally wavy hair, as it was huge when freshly blow dried. Now I am embracing its hugemenss and going for a scrunched curly/wavy look which has atracted many compliments, let me tell you.

it's now more like this

but it was
like this

mrsmaidamess Sat 13-Jun-09 19:54:16



Trikken Sun 14-Jun-09 11:27:55

mine didnt even go back after two weeks worth of washes and it normally did go right back to being curly.

bebesequin Sun 14-Jun-09 20:36:27

I have curly hair I love it but Mon-Fri it is straight just takes less time to get out to work if I have just got to run the straightners through it-Come the weekend its curls all the way- Also agree it looks somehow more groomed straight- I have a pretty full on job and used to feel when my hair was curly at work it somehow looked less professional.
I agree no need to follow fashion I change from curls to straight as the mood or circumstance takes me.

Bonneville Sun 14-Jun-09 20:48:52

Straightening has transformed my life. I wouldn't mind if I had curly hair but I have'nt. My hair is frizzy (no other word to describe it). Straightening is the only thing which calms it down and makes it look tidy. I know I am damaging my hair but there is no alternative.

MaggieBee Sun 14-Jun-09 20:53:01

oh em gee honey, straight hair is like so totally over

(thank god, i've been waiting two decades)

Bonneville Sun 14-Jun-09 20:55:54

OMG Nooooooooo!

Flibbertyjibbet Sun 14-Jun-09 21:02:48

I am also late 40's and embraced my wavy/curly hair in about 1978. I haven't straightened it with straighteners while thats been a fashion as my hair is very fine and I look BALD when the hairdressers straighten it!
But yes, groomed is much better on anyone over 40. When I was in my 20's it was all fab auburn curls without any effort on my part whatsoever.
However having said that today I couldn't find the hairdryer so I kept fluffing my fine hair up with my hands, when i finally looked in the mirror I was quite pleased to see it looked like that fluffy (think early deborah harry) hair cut that scarlett johansen has probably paid megabucks for!

TheBolter Sun 14-Jun-09 21:09:37

I think dead poker straight hair (often seen with black hair under/white hair over wrongness) is over.

You can still straighten your hair but try not to over straighten it. So it looks like naturally straight hair, not flat ironed hair.

I have wavy hair that looks great if just left to dry on its own naturally, no brushing etc, but usually I'm in a hurry so have to blow dry it. This makes it frizzy so I have to run the irons through it to take the frizz out.

trixymalixy Sun 14-Jun-09 21:10:47

GHds have totally transformed my life too.

My hair has a wave to it and gos really frizzy if i don't dry and then straighten immediately after washing

i don't straighten my hair poker straight, but just make it look a bit more groomed. i also only do it every 3rd day.

TheBolter Sun 14-Jun-09 21:14:34

Agree Trixy, I do it to look more groomed in between washes too. I don't know what I'd do without my GHDs!

trixymalixy Sun 14-Jun-09 21:19:24

Thebolter when I first got my GHDs I lent them to my sister so she could see how wonderful they were as she has nightmare hair like mine.

She sent me a text saying "thank you, thank you thank you God for GHDs!!!"

i never used to be able to do anything with my hair before, but now it can look halfway decent thanks to GHds.

MaggieBee Sun 14-Jun-09 22:10:54

My hair is too thick.

GHDs are only any use if your hair is thin to normal. It takes a hairdresser nearly an hour to straighten my hair using them, as there's so much of it. They always tell me off, as though I have thick thick hair to annoy them

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