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I've lost weight but now look older. If I put some back on will I look younger?

(38 Posts)
dollydoughnut Thu 19-Feb-09 19:26:06

I lost about 1.5 stones (from 10st 10lb to 9st 4lb)last year for my neice's wedding. I was delighted as I had tried for years without success to lose it. I have maintained the weight loss. My body looks much better and it is great to be able to feel good in my clothes.

Unfortunately, however, I look a lot older now, especially around my mouth. (I am 46 but have always looked younger). My face seems to have dropped! I feel so awful each time I look in the mirror now. The skin around my mouth almost looks lumpy!!

Does anyone have any ideas for improving this? Do I put weight back on in the hope that it will 'flesh' out my face? Or is there any magic cream that will help? (I currently religiously clean my face with wipes and use nivea cream during day and Waitrose Baby Butter at night). All answers very gratefully received!

mileniwmffalcon Thu 19-Feb-09 19:28:08

is eternal post-40 arse vs face conundrum i'm afraid. you have to pick which bothers you most.

twinsetandpearls Thu 19-Feb-09 19:29:33

I look fabulous and young because all the fat plumps out my wrinkles. grin

dollydoughnut Thu 19-Feb-09 19:33:13

So, if I put some weight back on will it plump out my wrinkles, or am I too late and will end up fat, wrinkly and depressed!sad

beansontoast Thu 19-Feb-09 19:34:29

unfortunately losing weight off your face will always make you look older than you did before.

my friend is 24 and has just lost alot of weight and her once beautiful plump round face now has lines,that curiously distract from her weight loss.

personally i dont think creams will make any difference.have a fantastic haircut and maybe a make up master class?

chisigirl Thu 19-Feb-09 19:35:21

sadly i have come to the conclusion that after a certain age, you can choose to have youthful skin or to be slim!

EffiePerine Thu 19-Feb-09 19:35:45

Isn't eating 'good' fats (fish and the like) supposed to help the skin? You cd try tweaking your diet - esp if you went low-fat - without adding too many calories

dollydoughnut Thu 19-Feb-09 19:39:39

That may be true, EffiePerine, as I have maintained my weight by eating a very low calorie diet during the week and relaxing at weekends. Perhaps I should balance it a bit more by eating more good fats. Thanks.

Has anybody put on weight again and it helped 'refill' their wrinkles?

Thank you for all your posts, by the way.

Mintyy Thu 19-Feb-09 19:41:45

How tall are you? Will help us decide whether 9st 4 is a low, average, or even slightly plump weight for your height.

(Have vested interesst as I'm a plump young-looking 46 year old who would like to lose weight!!!)

My 43 year old friend, about 5'4", went on a diet down from 12 stone something to 8 stone 12. I'm afraid she did look wrinkled and saggy at that weight. It was too low for her and she couldn't maintain it. Once she went back up to 9 stone 7, she honestly looked much, much better.

dollydoughnut Thu 19-Feb-09 20:15:53

I am 5'4" Mintyy. I am an average build. I am now able to wear size 10 which feels great after spending years in size 12/14.

My friends have stressed that I shouldn't lose any more weight so maybe its their way of saying that I should put some back on.

I walk every day and have done for years but couldn't lose weight but then managed to do it by low calorie diet. I really wish now that I hadn't but am afraid to start eating more now as I will probably go back to being plump and feeling sluggish again.

Mintyy Fri 20-Feb-09 13:41:55

Do you know what Dolly? I'd suggest you go back up another 5lb. You will still be able to wear size 10s from some shops, I'm sure.

Also, I have been meaning to google this amazing 80 year old who does facial exercises. Seen pics of her and she really does look 20 years younger and she puts it all down to exercising her face muscles.

I might just do that now.

BonsoirAnna Fri 20-Feb-09 13:48:56

I know the feeling - I weigh 58 kg, prefer my body (well, my bottom and thighs) when I weigh 55 kg but my face just cannot take that weight - I look positively drawn.

SilentTerror Fri 20-Feb-09 14:41:13

Me too.Am trying to lose a stone atm,so I will be around 9 st 7 or so.If I go any lower I look 'drawn' and have hollows beneath my eyes.
I def think a few pounds makes all the difference post 40.

OrmIrian Fri 20-Feb-09 14:44:03

I have that problem. My own version of 'nice legs shame about the face' sad I have put a bit of weight on since my lowest and I'm afraid it hasn't helped facially.

mileniwmffalcon Fri 20-Feb-09 14:58:17

how about looking at fitness and exercise rather than diet? a well toned, glowing with health 12 is surely more attractive than a drawn, droopy 10?

noddyholder Fri 20-Feb-09 15:01:25

I am 43 and before xmas lost about 9lbs and felt fab in my clothes but when I saw the pictures of xmas day I did look haggard sad.I have since put the weight back on and am gutted tbh as I liked being slim but my face looks better now so not sure what the answer is.

verygreenlawn Fri 20-Feb-09 17:23:34

Yes, I filled out when pregnant the last time and am still carrying a few pounds a few months on. Definitely look better from the neck up at the moment and I would say, yes, the wrinkles have "filled in". I'd still rather be minus the few pounds though, just because it's the weight I'm used to and prefer to be at.

Have you tried eating lots of vitamin E foods - aren't they meant to be good for the skin? Avocado is good for vitamin E I think?

brimfull Fri 20-Feb-09 17:31:57

you could get your face filled with that restylane stuff,was reading about it in woman and home mag.
looked great

brimfull Fri 20-Feb-09 17:32:57

but if you gained weight again after getting face filled you'd have humungous face grin

TracyK Fri 20-Feb-09 17:42:40

I'd say to see what your natural weight stabilises at - ie eat healthily 80% of the time - do 30 mins of cardio type exercise a day and see what your weight settles at.

You've done the hard work to lose the weight - but now you can take the foot off the pedal and see what it settles at - you don't want to be calorie counting to keep your weight down for another 40 years!!

How much money have you got to spend on your face - CACI treatments are good for lifting at about £40 a pop - or facial exercises - takes longer but is free. or thermage thingy (google it) - before and afer piccies look great. or s-lift or c-lift also look good face lifts - but done keyhole and awake.

earthpixie Fri 20-Feb-09 22:12:59

If you press your lips together hard and hold them for as long as possible several times a day (without clenching your teeth) it tones the muscles around your mouth and can plump out lines and sag.


Wuxiapian Sat 21-Feb-09 10:54:59

I believe it's face or body.

I was 13st 7lbs and very beautiful. Looked very young - had great hair and skin and plenty of admirers.

I went down to 9st 7lbs. I looked older, my hair and skin also suffered.

Ironically enough, I was far more confident overweight. It was a hurtful comment from a "friend" that made me feel self-conscious and started the weight-loss thing.

I now hovver around the 10st 7lb mark and don't mind the extra padding - except when I'm asked for ID when buying wine in Sainsbos. I'm 31.

veryembarrassedmummy Sat 21-Feb-09 11:38:08

You could try facial exercises - such as those by Eve Fraser- there is a DVD/book.

Creams etc will not help tough- surgery,possibly Botox, or exercises .

Sorry - but you are much healthier without the added weight.

veryembarrassedmummy Sat 21-Feb-09 11:41:09

Just to reiterate what TracyC says- there are lots of fillers and non-invasive cosmetic treatments that might be enough.

One good place that seems reputable is
worth a consultation maybe to see what can be done?

veryembarrassedmummy Sat 21-Feb-09 11:42:12


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