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I'm going to a party on Saturday and I am going to be the oldest, fattest and ugliest
Dh is 10 years younger than me, his mates are all around the same age, all their wives/ girlfriends are younger than them.
I feel so uncomfortable if we are in a big group, I'm fine if we go out with just one other couple but when it's the whole lot of them I feel like I'm their mother. Doesn't help that my dd is 19 and therefore only a few years younger than some of them.
No matter what I wear I never feel right, I feel totally out of place, I hate that I feel like this. I am a confident person in most situations but not in this one. Tomorrow night I am running a quiz night for about 70 people and I know that if anyone who was there could read this, they would think it was a wind up.
I get worked up and upset and feel so sorry for dh who ends up offering not to go.
Because I don't fit in. Imagine a bunch of thin women in their twenties, with money to spend on clothes and into that group put a 45 year old mother of three, size 14/16 with a wardrobe that either consists of 'office clothes' or 'standing on a football pitch on a Sunday morning in the mud' clothes.
I stick out like a sore thumb.
A few years back after one of their number had just had a baby, she came to one of the parties. Oh the laughing about the size of her backside when she left the room was deafening. I told them all they were being horrid, told them to wait until they were in the same position, and then laugh.
Said mother now has a micro backside and mine is larger than hers ever was (sad)
D'you remember the advice someone gave you when you were about to see your horrible ex in court, to have wild sex just before (not in the courtroom, obviously, though, as you'd get arrested) and look a bit rumpled and glowing. I suggest that tactic on Saturday.