Bleached hair probs

[Flossie44]

So I’ve always had dark hair. Then the greys started coming through and the upkeep became so hard.
My plan was to go a lot lighter which would help the struggle.
So I gradually went lighter prior to lockdown. Really slowly.
Over lockdown my hairdresser left and now my friend (a hairdresser) has been colouring my hair. It’s gone v light which I wanted. But it keeps going a shade of orange. It’s not the natural colour I wanted. I feel it looks a bit 90’s! And dry! I’d always had such amazingly good condition.

It’s so awkward because my friend has been doing it. She doesn’t use two colours, it’s a blanket colour. I’ve said what I want but she chooses the colour and has always mixed it prior to me getting there (or is mixing as I arrive).

Can I use a box colour and go a light brown? Or will it go horrid?

I’m so nervous as to what to do. I just hate it at the mo and feel quite self conscious

[Miracle29]

Can you tell your friend that your thinking you want to go lighter and don't like the tone so she can change it and explain it goes a colour you don't like? Is she using a toner?
If you want to go brown you'll need a red based colour to put ontop of the blonde first then apply the brown. If you apply a brown straight to light blonde hair you do run the risk of it maybe going greenish or a muddy colour. If your wanting to keep the blonde have you tried a purple or blue shampoo they take out brassiness too just apply as you need it. As for dry hair use a mask 1-2 times a week, coconut oil if you have it or try olaplex.

[Flossie44]

Thanks so much.

I’ve mentioned it to my friend and I know she’s doing what she can. I think maybe I’m just generally underwhelmed.
I use a purple shampoo and am so pleased for the first 3 or so weeks. But then the colour deteriorates from then.

I’ll get a mask tomorrow. Thanks so much. Is the coconut oil the cooking variety?!

[Valhalla17]

Well that's normal...you often need a toner every 2-6 weeks depending on your hair. What you need to do is a weekly deep condition, use less heat etc.

[Flossie44]

What toner can I use at home?

[Girlintheframe]

Evo fabuloso are very good and come in a variety of colors but I do find them a bit drying so mix with an ordinary conditioner.
I use mine once a week.

[RaaFace]

I wouldn't use a box colour, you need to treat your hair really carefully now so stick with the experts for any radical changes.

[Cantstopthewaves]

I think the solution is only going to come from going to a salon for a consultation and using a new hairdresser.
My friend is a hairdresser and didn't seem to listen/thought she knew what I wanted/knew best. At the end of the day she's not providing the service you want.
If she's working from home or is mobile she will only be ordering a few colours too and will have limited products she uses for her clients. She will also be keeping her costs low and unless you pay£££ she won't be ordering stuff just for you that she doesn't think she will use again.
How much do you pay for your hair?

[raffegiraffe]

I've been using an excellent ash blonde toner by treseme. It's just called ash blonde. It's a pump type bottle