This is everywhere in the news at the moment and there's quite a few threads about it. I almost feel like we can't win. If we're looking after what we eat, we can cause our impressionable daughters an eating disorder. God forbid we might ever mention weight to them. But I feel very conflicted. My 13 YO DD is a few kilos overweight. Not many, say 4, but if she doesn't grow much taller, (and it's possible that she won't as I am short), this can become an issue. I have felt miserable about my weight my whole entire life. Still do.
Is it okay for me to carry on as if I am not noticing what's happening to her body, knowing that years of misery will follow? This is a genuine question by the way, I am totally conflicted. At home we eat from scratch with an emphasis on vegetables. We also have treats (which I don't have), so it's not like she's deprived and then binges on sugar; I mean I know she does when she can, but not because she's not allowed sweets.
I can almost see myself in her when I was that age, and I was so uncomfortable with the way I looked, that I hid my body as much as I could, which really restricted what I could do socially (I grew up in a hot country) and I started emotional eating and becoming addicted to sugar for the next 40 years.
I need to educate my DD on healthy eating, activity, self-care, etc, but it is extremely difficult to convey this message without pointing out the fact that she is getting big.
I feel that my DD has inherited my body type, which means she'll have to work hard at it to stay within a normal healthy range. For me, I guess being vain enough helped me manage this. My worry is that my DD seems to have taken the 'I don't care about myself/I am not worth it' route like my sister, who ended up obese.
I don't even know if this is the right place to post and I realise I am rambling, but perhaps this might resonate with others going through similar who could advise? Lockdown is making things so much harder as activities have stopped.
My DD would rather poke her eyeball with a fork that go running with me. She does run 5K every other day by the way. She's a good runner but the 30 minutes a day she is doing in a context of inactivity is not cutting it at the moment. If I ask her to go for a walk with me she blatantly refuses and the atmosphere becomes heavy at home. I just don't know how to turn things around.
If I think about what would have helped me at that age, I genuinely feel that the fact that exercise and sports were like dirty words in my household, didn't help.
Okay, still rambling...
Would love to hear from others. Please don't bother pointing the finger at me, I already feel guilty for my DD's lack of self-esteem and weight issues.
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BloggersNetwork · 01/08/2020 11:26
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