Do I tell my friend to ease off the fillers?

[thisgirlrides]

I have a friend who is attractive and always well-groomed. She has had Botox/fillers for quite a while but recently her lips have got noticeably larger and are now just a bit weird looking and noticeably fake
Part of me thinks she has a mirror so can see what she looks like and is clearly happy with this more pronounced ridiculous look, but then I wonder if people who have regular work often gets to this point where they can't actually see that when they've gone past the natural enhancement stage and need reining in with some honest advice. If it make a difference she is a nurse and does Botox/fillers for clients privately on the side. Should I say something or keep quiet for the sake of our friendship?

[Grumpymum789]

I would keep quiet, as you say she can see what they look like and is choosing to make them this size.

[managedmis]

Oh god keep quiet

[hamstersarse]

Tricky....I think I’d want to know. Most people want to look natural and maybe don’t realise when they’ve crossed the line.

There are ways to say it without being brutal

[NewjobMrsM]

She wont listen honestly

Your right she can see it herself. It is madly addictive and because it dissolves over time after 6 months you feel that you need more and more!!

There is nothing to gain from saying anything so i would suggest say nothing

[damnthatanxiety]

Depends on your relationship with her and how you normally communicate. My friends and I would likely say 'babe, they are looking a bit OTT at the mo' and no one would take offence.

[Mamette]

I wouldn’t say anything unless she asked my opinion, in which case I’d say that they dominate her face a little when they are freshly done.

[CatBatCat]

Maybe that's the look she's aiming for

[TheSunIsStillShining]

I'm not british, so obv. I would say something :) would she take it on board? Who knows?

[CountFosco]

I wouldn't say anything but wouldn't it be brilliant if you did because she probably still thinks she looks really natural and thinks nobody knows.

[FAQs]

I would say something but then my friends would say something to me, we are pretty honest in our friendships.

[winterisstillcoming]

Tactfully I'd say.

Maybe bring up in conversation that there are so many 'looks' these days. Completely natural, natural that's been helped, or 'perfect'. Then ask her what she's going for.

[Fluffycloudland77]

Oh lord, I can see why you’d want too but the chance of her taking offence is so high.

[JollyGiraffe12]

Unless she directly asks for your opinion, don’t offer it. If you were genuinely concerned for her physical or mental health it would be different.

[PMTRex]

She has a mirror - she can see what she looks like - and she is clearly ok with that look!

I wouldn't say anything tbh. Each to their own (even if it looks ridiculous).

[achillesratty]

My friend is in her 50's she has got long straight hair that she thinks makes her look youthful, it doesn't. I don't say anything because she likes it, if she asked I would tactfully say "oh maybe try some layers or a more defined cut" but she doesn't ask, so I don't say anything.

I would adopt the same approach with your friend.

[CorianderLord]

My sisters the same - Doc who does fillet on the side and her mouth gets bigger every time I see her. I don't say anything. It's her face

[Hairthrowaway]

TELL HER

My fillers went wrong and I had them dissolved. I’m glad my friends gently told me that my lips didn’t look right and that I looked better before, as it pushed me into making a complaint where the clinic corrected it free of charge.

I see girls with equally bad lips all the time, eg one of my colleagues has absolutely large (filler) lips and overlines them on top of that, in a red or bright pink shade. Her lips genuinely make up 1/3 of her face, she’d look so much better if she stopped overdrawing them at least.

[Clumsyduck]

No I think those of us who have “work” done know exactly what we look like and we like it

Mine is only subtle but those who know will constantly tell me “ but you don’t need it “ and it doesn’t change my mind in the slightest about doing it so if anything you might just make her feel like shit

[daisydukes7576]

If she asks tell her the truth but I do think it's bit mean unless she asked for your opinion to be honest

[Fletchings]

don't volunteer your opinion! It won't end well.

[Smallsteps88]

I’d probably say “oh you’ve gone bigger this time.” And see if she responds that it was intentional or not.

[Hairthrowaway]

Look I don’t think there’s anything wrong will getting filler, to a certain degree it will never look completely natural to those who know what your face is like, so it’s fine if someone can spot the difference. I have filler myself.

However there’s a difference between good filler and problematic filler which I think OP is referring to. Filler can be placed in an unflattering manner, cause lumps/bumps, migrate into surrounding tissue, look asymmetrical or overfilled etc. If this has happened to her friend, I think she should gently tell her. I wish I had corrected mine sooner, I spent months hoping the swelling/product would dissolve and feeling self conscious in the process.

[PersonaNonGarter]

Don’t tell her. She has a mirror.

Different if she asks. Then say.

[SunshineChatter]

Could it be that she sees people who get too much filler and has gotten accustomed to seeing results which are OTT? And hence she thinks she's still looking natural? Maybe stay quiet until the next 'dose' and then say something, tactfully. I know she has a mirror but she probably doesn't see it's too much because she sees 'too much' in her job all the time so it's become normal.

[MoltonSilver]

She'll shoot the messenger.