Hey, I'm not sure how to stop looking and feeling such a mess all the time. I'm 37, work, 2 kids, 1 with additional needs and I study and I'm just tired and have no energy to do anything to look better but I've had enough of feeling so ugly and I know I need to change and I need to take the first step to caring for myself again. However I can't even think what that will be. I don't think I've ever had a style as such, I work with children and wear work polo t shirts and hoodies, I still can't find anything that suits my bottom half, my belly is a lot bigger than my bum and legs (belly a size 18, bum and legs a 14 max) so I struggle to find Jeans or trousers as to fit my belly they are so baggy on my bum and legs it looks awful. Outside work I tend to just wear pj's or stay in my work stuff, if I take the kids out I wear quite shapeless very baggy dresses and boots, I never go out out so have no 'tidy' clothes. My hair is thick and frizzy and greying, after years of being lovely thick wavy ginger hair and I have no idea what to do with it anymore, it always looks rubbish. My skin, which was once lovely is now spotty and so dry it flakes. I put on so much weight when I had post natal depression and then had a complete breakdown and stopped looking after myself as I didn't think I deserved to be alive yet alone doing stuff for myself. I'm really trying to get over it, I've always looked after my girls and have been back in work for 2 years, I'm still on medication and don't really feel great about myself, outside I look a mess but noone would know how bad I feel when I'm home and everyone is in bed. The doctor thinks I have trauma. She thinks I need to start looking after myself, she suggested yoga? I'm so tense I'm constantly on edge and I struggle to move properly I'm so stiff but I've never tried yoga and would feel weird going to a class, I also am limited on childcare so evening classes aren't really an option. I just don't know where to start. Any advice? Sorry for the long post I don't speak to many people and end up just spilling when I actually communicate. Thanks x
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