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Waspie Sat 01-Feb-20 10:33:31

I really need your help please.

My partner and I are having a civil partnership signing in March. It's just the signing with two good friends as witnesses in the morning. The four of us are then going to a nice restaurant for lunch afterwards. We may have a bigger party in the summer but for now that's all we have planned.

For reference I'm 5'9", 46 years old and wear a size 16. I have no waist (my hips literally meet the bottom of my ribcage) and large breasts, so very fitted dresses don't look good. Plus, it's March. What does one wear in March?

I found a couple of dresses I quite like - Phase8 and Monsoon but I'm not sure if they are suitable.

I don't want to spend hundreds on a dress/suit because I also need shoes, coat and some serious "hold it all in" smoothing underwear!

Any suggestions for something which would suit me would be very gratefully received please.

Thanks in advance smile

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Thinkle Sat 01-Feb-20 11:12:02

It’s hard without knowing your personal style, but my initial reaction to your dresses was “are they special enough” even if it’s a small do you must feel very special. I did a quick look on John Lewis and there is a lovely 100% silk whistles wrap dress half price... still £149 though.
As for March, it’s tough, it could be sunny and warm or snowing. My advice would be to hold off until closer to the date please don’t buy a cardi!! And then see what type of weather appropriate smart coat will go with your chosen dress. And remember your smoothing undies will help keep you warm!

Thinkle Sat 01-Feb-20 11:13:36

jaggynettle Sat 01-Feb-20 11:44:27

Wrap dresses are v flattering or balloon dresses with a belt. A V neck will flatter your boobs. I generally find a dress or style I like the look of then look for a pre owned version on eBay

Waspie Sat 01-Feb-20 12:06:29

I know what you mean about the "are they special enough" Thinkle and that was my thought too.

My style is boring [weeps] I looked through my wardrobe and it's work clothes from Boden and Phase 8 and jeans and tops from Fat Face and Gap all in sludgy blues, greys and greens!

I really like that Whistles dress you have linked to. Thank you. I was trawling John Lewis and didn't see that one!

Waiting to buy a coat/jacket makes sense. Whatever I get I promise it won't be a cardi smile

I agree about wrap dresses jaggynettle. I think they are probably the most flattering shape for me. I usually try to avoid belts and I've not heard of balloon dresses so I will take a look at some this afternoon. Looking on ebay is also a good idea. Thanks for the suggestions.

Are there any shops/designers I should look at in particular do you think?

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie Sat 01-Feb-20 12:22:08 This is lovely and heavily reduced. Not sure about the high neck, but it looks as if you might be able to wear it open, maybe?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie Sat 01-Feb-20 12:25:03

Or if you like Boden, maybe something like this with really great shoes? I've got it and am really pleased with it.

Waspie Sat 01-Feb-20 13:11:36

I love Hobbs styles Remus but I usually balk at the price smile.

I have never owned anything red. I am fair and freckly and, rightly or wrongly, think that red will not suit my colouring. I think I need a trip to John Lewis and try some of these suggestions on!

I love the Hobbs dress. I like the Boden dress but I'm not sure it doesn't fit into the "is it special enough?" category.

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StCharlotte Sat 01-Feb-20 17:10:24

I'm fair and freckly too and that Hobbs red dress would be the perfect red for me.

DearHappy Sat 01-Feb-20 17:13:37

The Hobbs dress is really lovely.

DearHappy Sat 01-Feb-20 17:14:07

Sorry, the Whistles dress.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou Sat 01-Feb-20 17:34:45

John Lewis offer a free personal shopper service. This sounds like the perfect special occasion to use that service.

Almahart Sat 01-Feb-20 18:12:17

That Hobbs dress is absolutely beautiful!

Sunshinegirl82 Sat 01-Feb-20 18:18:12

How about a bombshell HQ number?

Waspie Sat 01-Feb-20 20:50:55

I've never considered a personal shopper buggeroff, I'll look into it though, thanks.

Oh wow I've never heard of bombshell hq sunshinegirl but those dresses are amazing! If we do have a summer party I will certainly consider the confident dresssmile

I showed the whistles dress to dp and he loves it too so I've ordered it. Fingers crossed it fits!

Thanks all. I may be back to ask about shoes wink

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Sunshinegirl82 Sat 01-Feb-20 20:57:35

They're amazing, and they do fantastic shape wear too!

Enjoy your day!

Waspie Sun 02-Feb-20 11:26:00

I notice that their shop is in Muswell Hill which isn't too far away from me. A personal visit may be in order if the Whistles dress doesn't work out grin

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Waspie Fri 07-Feb-20 15:00:12

The Whistles dress doesn't fit sad I'm just too short in the body. If the sleeves aren't falling off my shoulders then the bodice is around my waist. I can't see a way to fix it as they are sleeves rather than straps. So, regretfully, it's been returned.

How about this one? Phase 8 Fiona I think I may have the same issue with the wrap top as I had with the Whistles dress though.

Or something more tradition like this Mariposa although it's very "mother of the bride/groom" and maybe too dressy for a registry office?

I can't justify over £200 for a Bombshell dress sad I want to stay under £150 if possible please.

Any other suggestions for a short waisted, buxom, middle aged, freckly, size 16 please?

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Sunshinegirl82 Fri 07-Feb-20 15:07:15

That's a shame! Have you looked at Lady V?

Sunshinegirl82 Fri 07-Feb-20 15:15:53

Something like this maybe?

Waspie Fri 07-Feb-20 15:47:34

Just looked - I like the "Elsie" dresses Sunshine but they only have small sizes. I'm not sure I have enough personality to pull off such a bold print as the one you've linked to!

I'm cruising the John Lewis website again and all of the wrap or V neck dresses will probably be too low cut, but a round or boat neck will just make me look even more busty.

What about this? Too worky? A Line

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VeraVioletVinn Fri 07-Feb-20 17:05:20

If you like the 'Elsie' dress, this version is available in a size 16 - also quite a bold print though!

Waspie Fri 07-Feb-20 17:26:59

I quite like that Vera , thank you - although I worry that as a larger woman someone might mistake me for the sofa grin

I've decided that I'm going to go to the shops tomorrow armed with some dress shoes and my shapewear undies and not come home until I've found something. Wish me luck I could be there a while...

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie Sat 08-Feb-20 16:35:39

Any joy?

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