Fancy being a Goddess for 2020?

[Pinkarsedfly]

Bear with me. I’m 45, size 14, about as far from a Goddess as you could possibly imagine.

But...I read a comment from a MNer on one of these boards a few months back, I think it was on a thread about stopping overeating, and it’s really stuck with me. The OP was asking how she could stop bingeing on crap, and a pp said something like, ‘Eating good food in the right amount is more goddess-like. Treat yourself like a Goddess.’

I really liked that. It stuck with me. I like the idea of channelling an innner goddess much more than princessing. So I thought I’d start a thread of ideas about how to be a goddess for 2020.

So far I’ve thought of:

Take regular exercise - not in a sweaty gym, but running outside, yoga, stretching etc. Good for the mind as well as the body.

Eat well, and not too much. There’s not much goddess-like about shoving your hand down a tube of Pringles and getting crumbs down your front.

Drink more water.

Looking after skin, maybe use natural products?

Be creative and try to use more positive self-talk?

I don’t know if I’m barking up the wrong tree, but I’m feeling my way towards treating myself better and hoping it has a knock-on effect.

Any other potential goddesses out there with more ideas?

[Love51]

I like this.
My auntie was a Catholic Primary headteacher (hi to any cousins I'm outing myself to) - she used to talk to the school children about them all being children of God, so shouldn't be mean but also shouldn't accept meanness from others, towards anyone.
There could be an element of this about respect - a Goddess wouldn't allow her children to be rude, her boss to talk to her like shit, or her mother to make her second guess herself.

So using food to nourish ourselves, expecting respect, and doing some exercise.
That's a start. Off to do a Goddessy jog. Goddesses probably don't spend hours on the internet coz they cba to move!

[Pinkarsedfly]

I like those. I’ll add to the list:

-not too much time on the internet.

• be kind to yourself and others.
  

Any more?

[Fredy45]

Nice idea! I am the same age and size and want to start being kind to myself.

I have set myself a running goal (from very slow to slow), would like to add some yoga in and some strength work because it's good for me. Need to embed this into a regular routine.

I need to lose about 1 - 1.5 stone ideally but find it very hard now (start of peri I think plus dodgy thyroid but not bad enough to medicate). In the past I've fasted or crash dieted but fasting doesn't seem to agree with me so I think I'm going to try some mindful eating, lots of lovely but small portions, listening to myself etc.

I am going to have a couple of v light days in January just because I've overeaten, feel sluggish and want to reset a bit.

I want to find some nice fruit or herbal tea - don't mind spending on good quality here as it's cheaper than costa!

I used my Christmas vouchers to get some new skincare including a retinol and vit c serum plus spf.

I've bought some work clothes in the sale which are not grey or black or dark navy. I like colour and feel better when I wear it. Want to get some new accessories - I like a bit of quirk and want to bring that out a bit more.

[Fredy45]

Ohhh another one - more sex, more affection and more listening. Very conscious I expect quite a lot from dh and don't always reciprocate when it comes to listening to him. A bit more effort to connect would do us both the world of good

[Pinkarsedfly]

I like your ones, Fredy

Communication.
More sex.
More colour.
Adorn yourself - show off your individuality!

There’s a good bit of self-acceptance in there too. I like it.

[sniffsneeze]

Excellent idea - I've just eaten a lion bar ... Am I banned?

[DoloresTheDonkey]

I started doing all this about six months ago and according to the compliments I've received from friends and family, I'm winning at it.

I can honestly say as a mid 50's woman who still fat but not as fat as I was six months ago, I feel so much happier and intend to keep going.

Good luck with your transformation.

[Isadora2007]

Loving these ideas as so many resolutions are quite self- hating or punishing- which is always quite sad to me.
I’d like to journal or just write more. I love finding old diaries (I have started soooo many but carried on with none) and reading about life even if it seemed mundane at the time...

[Pinkarsedfly]

Never banned, sniffsneeze!

Did you fully enjoy your Lion bar? Using all senses?

[Pinkarsedfly]

Ooh, Dolores can you tell us more about how you achieved your goddess status?

[Pinkarsedfly]

Isadora that’s it exactly!

My resolutions are about doing things rather than banning things.

[MaidenMotherCrone]

This is a goddess. Looks like me (without a perm though). Therefore I am a goddess.

[DoloresTheDonkey]

I should've added but forgot, I started doing a daily period of mindfulness, it's helped to bring my stress levels right down. The stresses are still and will always be there, I'm just coping with them in a more positive manner now.

[AnnieJ1985]

I want to be a goddess!
I'd like to be more mindful about my actions, rather than plodding along without considering if what I am doing/ eating/ saying is good for me.

A goddess would never plod.

My mantra will be "More Goddess, Less Ploddess"

[Pinkarsedfly]

Love that!

‘More Goddess, Less Ploddess’. Brilliant!

[Pinkarsedfly]

MaidenMotherCrone (great username btw)

I like her. I definitely recognise her. She’s a goddess alright.

[BelladonnaKebab]

I love this! Especially spending more time outdoors to exercise. It's tempting to just hide indoors and eat comfort food in winter, but we've just got back from a long walk and I feel great!

[Pinkarsedfly]

I’m going to play my guitar every day, and draw and write more.

I think that will be good for me. I’m not good at meditating, but those things are meditational for me, as they stop the mind-chatter.

[DoloresTheDonkey]

Pink I started to view food differently, cut right back on alcohol which was my crutch for all the stress.

I started buying skirts and dresses rather than my drab jeans and a top uniform. I added colour in to my wardrobe.

Decided I didn't want to go grey yet, had highlights put through, not loads but enough to perk my face up.

I started wearing makeup and perfume daily if I'm at work or going out. But equally I've accepted the flaws on my face and am happy to nip out wearing nothing but a smile on my face. Yes I'm smiling more too.

Started doing things just for me, like going to the theatre, I'm very happy going alone.

I'll try and think of more stuff but it's really just been a journey of acceptance and being more mentally positive, the anti-depressants and CBT helped too with the menopausal fug I'd fallen in to. Looking back I can see how depressed id become.

[Mazig]

I am definitely up for this. Lost my way in the last six months especially and I definitely don't feel like a goddess. I'm the same age and size as you, OP, and I really feel like I need to change my whole approach. I don't want to make pointless resolutions I won't keep and I don't want to try and look like I'm 20 or even 30. I want to feel some pride in myself and who I am and where I am in life, not try to be someone else.

Not sure yet how to achieve that, other than the need to start putting my own needs first a bit.

[Pinkarsedfly]

So, how to manage this?

I have a lot of notebooks that I just buy and don’t use.

So I’m going to adopt one and make it my Goddess Journal.

Write down three things each day that I’ve done, maybe?

[Tryingtogetitright]

Please can I join in? I'm turning 40 in a couple of weeks and have put on a couple of stone this year. Really want to get back in shape but in a "healthy new lifestyle way" rather than a non sustainable way. Like the idea of thinking goddess!

[Pinkarsedfly]

Of course, Trying the more the merrier!

[littleredlipstick]

Fredy45 my son bought me a box of 6 different teas from T2 for Christmas and they are lovely. He said they have taste testers out in the shop so you can try before you buy.

[Pinkarsedfly]

Drinking less is definitely a target.
Plus smiling more!
Trying not to let others’ moods affect me too much. Have a ‘difficult’ 21 year old son (student angst, very wearing) who can make me feel amazingly happy - but also can bring me right down. I need to reinforce my boundaries.