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Are these shirts unflattering?

(24 Posts)
DollyA40 Sun 17-Jun-18 18:02:15

My lovely niece, soon to be 20, has asked for one of the Crew Clothing rugby shirts for her birthday, like this

I realise this sounds really horrible, but surely I should buy her something that is 'younger' and more stylish than one of these rugby shirts? I didn't think 19 year olds shopped in Crew, I thought it was for older women (not that there is anything wrong with that).
Should I go ahead with the present she originally asked for, or should I buy something else? Can these rugby shirts look nice in real life?

AmazingPostVoices Sun 17-Jun-18 18:05:31

Dear Lord! Buy the woman what she wants.

She likes them, what you think is irrelevant.

flutteryleaves Sun 17-Jun-18 18:07:44

so she likes the preppy look then!

Personally i would not buy one for my daughter but she's only 8 grin, its just too jolly hockey sticks and the logo looks huge. i've never seen any young people or anyone wear those tops.

it could be nice with denim mini shorts i suppose!

i do have a friend who wears the ralph lauren fitted polo tops, the ones with a couple of buttons and a little collar. she looks great in those, she's a booby beanpole though but even if she wasn't they are a much more flattering item.

flutteryleaves Sun 17-Jun-18 18:10:00

true AmazingPost, my sister doesnt understand why i am mad about longchamp bags as they are "expensive granny shopping bags" according to her.

AmazingPostVoices Sun 17-Jun-18 18:13:49

If we all liked the same things Fluttery it would be boring.

Can you imagine how offended you’d be if your relative asked what you’d like for your birthday and then bought you something else because what you chose wasn’t to her personal taste?

How to wreck your relationship in one quick move. confused

DollyA40 Sun 17-Jun-18 18:14:29

I know, I feel bad for questioning, but I've only ever seen older ladies in these tops, not 19 year olds! Like you said flutteryleaves, it does look v. jolly hockey sticks and they don't look very flattering.
On the other hand, I love longchamp bags, keep buying them!

DollyA40 Sun 17-Jun-18 18:15:32

We are very close, and I wouldn't tell her I thought they were unflattering, I wouldn't want to upset her

AmazingPostVoices Sun 17-Jun-18 23:16:17

I wouldn't want to upset her

Excellent, buy her what she asked for then, assuming it’s within your budget.

Fairtatas Sun 17-Jun-18 23:26:30

They were all the rage at vet school 16 years ago!

nottinghillgrey Mon 18-Jun-18 00:05:39

Why would you buy her something else? It's not up to you to decide what she should wear

Ducksarsehead Mon 18-Jun-18 01:06:58

No. When you are lovely and young rugby type shirts look amazing. Esp with tight jeans or short shorts you can wear at 19.
I lived in rugby shirts but with v big jean flares and thought i looked ammmmazzzin.

Its only now we are older we think we cant carry off an older style. Prob true. But you can be anything you want at 19

Serendipite Mon 18-Jun-18 03:13:12

But you can be anything you want at 19


She can wear it with denim mini skirts, shorts, etc. At 19, you can get away with anything.

Monty27 Mon 18-Jun-18 03:22:38

It'll look lovely on a young woman. They know what they like. Get it get get it smile

Candyflip Mon 18-Jun-18 03:35:07

Yes, they are really unflattering and for 50 year olds. I just couldn’t. I know it is what she has asked for, but surely no one really likes them? I tend to buy keepsakes like jewellery. She will like that Nan-top for 5 minutes, she will keep jewellery forever.

PrimeraVez Mon 18-Jun-18 05:03:29

These were all the rage when I was in sixth form about 15 years ago! I had a really nice pink one (I wonder what happened to it?)

If it’s what she’s asked for, and it’s in budget, why wouldn’t you get it for her?!

DollyA40 Mon 18-Jun-18 08:50:24

Okay, I've ordered it for her. I'm sure she will pull it off - I'd just heard bad things about rugby shirts in the past that put me off buying it e.g. Unflattering and ageing, I guess as a 19 year old, like many of you have said, she can pull anything off !

Serendipite Mon 18-Jun-18 09:05:08

I guess as a 19 year old, like many of you have said, she can pull anything off !

Yeah she can wear a potato sack and look cute at 19! wink

nottinghillgrey Tue 19-Jun-18 15:03:09

she will keep jewellery forever

That's not necessarily true though. I don't have any of the jewellery I was given in my teens anymore.

RoseWhiteTips Tue 19-Jun-18 15:59:21

It’s preppy. Nice.

RoseWhiteTips Tue 19-Jun-18 16:01:15

Crew Clothing aims at a young demographic! The brand is not aimed at “50 year olds”.🙄

RoseWhiteTips Tue 19-Jun-18 16:02:07

Jewellery forever!? Which century is this, please!?

VetOnCall Tue 19-Jun-18 16:11:33

They were all the rage at vet school 16 years ago!

Haha Fairtatas you've just reminded me of the Joules polo shirts I wore when I was at vet school 16 years ago grin

OP, if that's what she wants then I would just get it for her.

Ihaventgottimeforthis Tue 19-Jun-18 16:19:43

hmm at the idea that you wouldn't buy her something she wanted, for fear it would be 'unflattering'.
Whenever will we get past this idea that women should only wear clothes that make them look acceptable/attractive to other people...
I hope she never finds out that you are critical of her appearance and choices.

goose1964 Wed 20-Jun-18 19:42:34

They're probably on the way back in, they are seriously comfy and lovely and warm in winter.

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