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Can you wear red to a wedding?

(21 Posts)
DanaScully83 Fri 20-Apr-18 03:20:28

Or is is too 'look at me' and best avoided?

Specifically thinking of this:

If it makes any difference - wedding is a civil ceremony at a vineyard and not a church ceremony.

Copperbonnet Fri 20-Apr-18 04:00:18

That’s a perfectly respectable dress even for a church wedding.

It’s lovely OP’a vineyard wedding sound picturesque and lots of fun!

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Fri 20-Apr-18 04:28:56

I think you’d have to know the wedding couple to decide. It’s a very nice dress and is lovely for a vineyard, but I think soft pastel colours are more traditional. Are the couple very traditional? You don’t want all eyes to go immediately to you in photos.

EmmaGrundyForPM Fri 20-Apr-18 04:30:35

I think it's fine. It's a lovelyvdress.

Poppins2016 Fri 20-Apr-18 04:38:01

That's a lovely dress - I'd wear it to a wedding.

Graphista Fri 20-Apr-18 05:26:36

Gorgeous dress I wouldn't see a problem at all.

I've even sold a red wedding dress. The bride was wife 2, not ow previous marriage ended ages before. But future mil adored ex DIL and had decided future DIL2 was a "scarlet woman" so bride went "fuck it I'll give you a scarlet woman" grin

No idea if the marriage lasted but the dress was amazing wink

Nellyphants Fri 20-Apr-18 05:44:23

That’s a lovely dress, not too short, nothing hanging out. Very suitable for a wedding

kissmelittleass Fri 20-Apr-18 05:55:46

Beautiful dress just what I would go for! I would wear it no problem I thought the only colour off limits to a wedding was white? I have seen red at weddings many times my sister in law wore similar to the last wedding we went to. Go for it op it's perfect!

Pictureiswonky Fri 20-Apr-18 06:07:16

Absolutely. It's gorgeous. I wore red to my own wedding so I clearly don't have a problem with it

BikeRunSki Fri 20-Apr-18 06:12:34

Is the bride Chinese by any chance? In China, brides traditionally wear red.

MrsGB2225 Fri 20-Apr-18 06:21:38

Perfect for a wedding

MinesaPinot Fri 20-Apr-18 09:20:01

Yes, of course you can. I've worn it several times to weddings as it's actually my Go To colour and I feel comfortable and confident in it.

That is a great dress and I am deeply envious of anyone who could wear it. At my shape and size I would look like a badly upholstered sofa....

Back to the weddings, the only time I would think twice about it would be if I was going to a Chinese wedding as BikeRunSki mentions, or an Indian wedding as I believe the brides wear red, but feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!

DanaScully83 Sat 21-Apr-18 00:34:31

Thanks everyone. Looks like I am sorted then smile My partner is an usher so we know the couple well - red is not part of their theme. I mentioned the dress to my MIL and she said 'you can't wear red to a wedding' so it put me off a bit!

Now I just hope it fits smile

Belindabauer Sat 21-Apr-18 07:47:05

Yes it's lovely
Graphista I think a red wedding dress is fantastic.
I can't think of anyone who looked better than Paula Yates on her wedding day when she worn a beautiful red wedding dress.

Mulberrysilk Sat 21-Apr-18 08:02:01

I saw a weddings in hello magazine where the mother of the from white red and it really did look like an attempt to update the bride. If you're not part of the bridal party then wear it, its lovely. If you'll be standing next to the bride in photos then don't.

Fluffiest Sat 21-Apr-18 08:05:21

That's a perfect wedding guest dress. Love it

AuntieStella Sat 21-Apr-18 08:09:03

Yes, of course you can wear red - unless the wedding is in China or anywhere where a bride traditionally wears red

Tattybear16 Sat 21-Apr-18 08:26:52

Yes you can, and it will look gorgeous much better than that god awful nude colour which looks awful in photographs. I love a different look at weddings, everyone normally goes for pastel colours but a different colour or a vintage style is much nicer. Wear it and enjoy it, ignore your mil she’s not wearing it. Love the dress you’ve picked it’s stunning.

Red can be hard to match, so if you’re choosing a hat or fascinator match it to your bag and shoes. Enjoy the day.

Nellyphants Sat 21-Apr-18 08:38:03

I want that dress now....I don’t need another dress

LostInShoebiz Sat 21-Apr-18 09:01:17

Older people, particularly elderly mothers, have a lot of rules for weddings. In the last few years I have been warned off: wrap dresses (too casual), jumpsuits (disrespectful), green, blue (what bridesmaids wear apparently), bare shoulder, bare knees, flats, green, cleavage, red, black, white (despite it being expressly requested), clutch bags (disrespectful: how will you take your sugared almonds home or carry DH's things).

sonjadog Sat 21-Apr-18 09:31:53

I have never heard of red being a problem at weddings. Is it a thing?

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